re: can you be raped by your husband?

I wouldn't say that it's your job. :/ Just going off this post and your last one, maybe you should take some time apart or seek counseling. He may not have known what he did was wrong. I hope it works out for you how you want it to!

Quoting Jennybananna:" Its is absolutely not your job to give him sex whenever. You need to talk to him about this. Do you feel ... [snip!] ... feel safe around him? Is this the first time something like this has happened? Could of been a misunderstanding of some sort? "

he's done this numerous times before. he would stay up late til 4am and play playstation the come to bed and climb on top when im sleeping telling me to "take it"

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" i have pondered on this for days....thinking and thinking and thinking. it felt ....idk how to describe ... [snip!] ... i would consider it rape. but it being my husband...i feel its my obligation to give it whenever wherever bc it's "my job""

Im so sorry you feel that way but rape or no its NEVER your job. Its your choice!

This is just a hard subject for me because like I said Ive said a quiet no or dont but I didnt see it as rape for me. But you do and its always how you feel deep down. You really have to talk to your husband about this! And a counsler since you feel so badly about it!! Im really sorry!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" he's done this numerous times before. he would stay up late til 4am and play playstation the come to bed and climb on top when im sleeping telling me to "take it""</blockquote>


That's a really unhealthy relationship. I am sorry you are going through this...if I were you I would leave.

Quoting Piecey.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" he's done this numerous times before. ... [snip!] ... That's a really unhealthy relationship. I am sorry you are going through this...if I were you I would leave."

 

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" he's done this numerous times before. he would stay up late til 4am and play playstation the come to bed and climb on top when im sleeping telling me to "take it""

You need to get out and get help. If it were me I would file charges. If you havent showered then get a rape kit done. Telling you to take it is rape. Just because he is your husband doesn't make it ok.

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" he's done this numerous times before. he would stay up late til 4am and play playstation the come to bed and climb on top when im sleeping telling me to "take it""

Oh hell no. That's terrible. I am so sorry. Outside looking in, but that seems like a really unhealthy relationship. Does he not have any respect for you?!? If I was you, I would leave him in a heartbeat. You don't deserve that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" i have pondered on this for days....thinking and thinking and thinking. it felt ....idk how to describe ... [snip!] ... i would consider it rape. but it being my husband...i feel its my obligation to give it whenever wherever bc it's "my job""</blockquote>




You are not obliged to give him sex whenever he wants it, sex has to be right for you too, after all you are not some sex toy for him to have off with whence he wants.
If you said no, told him to stop and he still kept going it is rape. I am terribly sorry to hear that this happened to you, I cannot even begin to imagine how you would have felt, but just remember that it isn't your "job" to give sex out 24/7 and if you aren't feeling it.

YES that was rape and you need to tell someone about it and tell HIM it is NOT to smurfing happen again, that is total bullsmurf and you are NOT to be treated that way!!!

Quoting Jennybananna:" You need to get out and get help. If it were me I would file charges. If you havent showered then get ... [snip!] ... havent showered then get a rape kit done. Telling you to take it is rape. Just because he is your husband doesn't make it ok. "

I agree if she wants to file for rape then she should! But I dont really see how a rape kit will help though. All he would have to say is it was consentual sp? I mean they are married. Rape kit would just prove they had sex.

I've been skimming some of your past posts. You do not have a normal, healthy relationship. He is not a good man. You need to go. Please find the strength somewhere in yourself to get you and your children out of there. He is scary controlling.

Quoting Rette Mich:" I agree if she wants to file for rape then she should! But I dont really see how a rape kit will help ... [snip!] ... help though. All he would have to say is it was consentual sp? I mean they are married. Rape kit would just prove they had sex."

Spousal rape is hard to prove but if he was rough or something it might help. It very well might not though.

he makes me have sex whenever he wants it. even when im sick with a fever of 103 and even when i just had a c-section ONE week ago.

The fact that you said to stop because it hurt and he kept going not only makes it rape, it makes him a poor excuse of a husband. You should file charges and leave him ASAP I'm sorry you are experiencing this  

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" he makes me have sex whenever he wants it. even when im sick with a fever of 103 and even when i just had a c-section ONE week ago."

All I can tell you to do is leave. It is rape and he sounds abusive in many ways. Call the cops report the rape and just leave and never look back. Get an order of protection and rebuild your life.