First time mom

My husband and i have been married for just over 3 years and thought it was a good time to start a family. We stopped BC and BAM right away i got pregnant! It has been so very exciting, and scary at the same time. I have always been sort of nervous to become pregnant only because of all the physical changes and things we women go through.
I have my first OB appt tomorrow morning, and i was told they would only do a vaginal ultrasound because im not far enough along (approx. 10 weeks) to do the abdominal one. I am beyond modest and absolutely HATE the exams that i know they have to do (what women likes it hu? no one!) I have been so nervous and uncomfortable about all the exams that i have to have done, of course including the delivery. I just wanted to see how you ladies handled it, and i want to make sure that my discomfort and being pissed off at the world because i have to do these exams wont affect the beauty and joy of seeing, hearing and bonding with my baby and husband.


Also did any of you ladies have people/family like moms or friends come to any of your routine ultrasounds? I know i want my husband there and i was told i would have a big ultrasound around 20 weeks to find out the sex and i can have a bunch of people there for that.

Also who did you have in the room during delivery? Pretty much everyone ive talked to and things i read from ladies say that you just do not care whos in the delivery room once it comes time. I know i have almost 7 more months to think about it but i think ill have a hard time with any other people to be in there with me. (I understand the dr. and nurses have to be there lol) I really want my mom here for everything but my brain is just like, no stop this is private! IDK......... Again i dont want this feeling to overwhelm the feel ing of the birth of my baby. Suggestions? Tips?

Thanks everyone =)

The vaginal ultrasound is not as bad as it sounds. With my doctor they actually lubed the ultrasound wand up and then has me insert it myself, which was just like putting in a big tampon.

I had my husband come to that ultrasound, the 20 week one, and the ones in the last trimester to measure dd since she was small. He was also the only one in the delivery room which I loved! Good luck mama

Your vagina is made for having babies and since the human race began, women have allowed others to see their hoo- hah during childbirth. Hope that makes you feel better

I'm 24 weeks along right now & I was in the same boat as you about 15-20 weeks ago. I had 2 vaginal ultrasounds (one was because they found an abnormality in me) & I was so awkward about it, especially because my OB is a guy. It gets easier. I've gotten over it. I've honestly stopped caring a lot, & I mean that in the best way possible. The appts & stuff have become so routine. I always bring my SO to the appts &, for my 20 weeks, it was just him & his sister that came (we invited my sis as well but she wasn't able to make it)
In my opinion, the 20 week ultrasound is super boring to bring people to. Yes, there's that amazing gender reveal, but I was in the room for an hour getting my ultrasound done. I felt bad for my SO & his sister just waiting there, staring at the screen, having no idea what was going on!

Its gonna be awkward this being your first. I always felt awkward at exams with my first but at delivery it didn't even cross my mind. My SO and his aunt were there along with a handful of nurses and the doctor. But when you're in labor that doesn't cross your mind that they're all there seeing everything. Just think, they were trained for this and deal with it on a daily basis, nothing they havnt seen before lol.
But anyhow, my SO and kids are at all the appointments for this one, and we have a u/s everytime so we get to see the baby all the time.

I hate having the exams as well... Luckily my Dr. did an exam at my first appt and he wont do anymore until I am very close.. Pheeww. However if their is complications they will have to do an exam. ( No thanks lol)

My mom and Hunny were at my first Ultrasound, however it was at 10 weeks so I didnt have it vaginal.   I have my 2nd ultrasound a week from today to find out the sex. I plan on just having my Hunny there, then we are going to do a "Revealing Cake" for the grown ups and "Suprise box w/ baloons" for the kids to reveal the sex. Just a fun/different way then a phone call.

As for the Deliever part.... I am so with you. I dont know who to have in there... I want just my Hunny but its are first kid and lets face it, he will be no help. haha Then I kinda want my mom in there but then I dont, and dont know how I would tell her to get out!!! Just gotta remember as Mommas pushing a baby out of our vaginas that its whatever the Hell we want and screw the rest!! Lol ;) My bestfriend always had an audience with kids in the delievery room.. No thanks!!  

The trans-vaginal ultrasound really isn't bad. Like the previous poster aleady said, I was given a lubed up ultrasound want and inserted it myself, had a blanket over me so the tech didn't see anything, and seeing my tiny baby's (which looked more like a white blob at that point) little heart beating made it all worth it! As for all the other exams, they're still awkward (this is my second pregnancy), but they're really not bad. The doctors and nurses have seen it all before and it's their job.
In the room while I was in labour I had my fiance, mom, dad, sisters and brothers, MIL, midwives (until I fired them haha), doctor after that, and nurses. While I was pushing it was my fiance, mom, doctors and nurses. I honestly didn't care at that point who saw what, as long as the baby came out lol!
Congrats on the pregnancy!!

the vaginal ultrasound was not bad at all. it looks like a "womens toy" lol. only smaller. if you could handle sex then thats not a big deal at all. that vaginal ultrasound was the only appt i had where they "violated" me, until i was 36 weeks then had the group beta strep test done.

you get used to it eventually.. im on my third pregnancy and i'm high risk so i get checked a lot... when i got my cerclages (stitches in the cervix) both times a man did it and there were several men/women in the room as well... my first delivery he was stillborn and there was only two people in there.. my second baby there was my mom, sister, best friend, brother (awkward and unplanned, i didn't realize i was in labor at 33wks) 7 neonatal nurses, my dr, my nurse, and a neonatologist in the room...all staring at my hoo haa(my husband would have been there had he not been deployed)... so honestly, im to the point i really don't care any more.. most of my drs have been men..so i just ignore it and move on.. this time i plan on it just being the man, my mom, and my bestie. but who knows how many extra nurses will be in there

I know about the Vaginal exam, ive had one done just 2 months ago, my thing is just having my mom in there. Its awkward that i would be putting this thing in me as shes sitting there. And my doctor had told me twice that i have a sensitive cervix so its not only akward and uncomfortable, but its also a little painful for me. So im also scared that all that put together will overwhelm the experience of seeing and hearing my baby for the first time.
And to Michaela were also doing the reveal cake =) And Amber what is the "group beta strep test"
I know FOR SURE that i only want my mom and husband in there for delivery, but still thinking about my mom. How often do they check you and do exams or whatever once you get to the hospital for delivery? Im still learning alot about the whole delivery part. I know some things but i keep finding out more and more lol. Also the other HUGE part that ive been FREAKING out about it tearing. Did you all tear? Did any of you have episiotomies? And like when my sister had her first baby my mom, dad and i went through target to get her pads and i was very confused on why, they just said she'd be bleeding and would need them. Any info? Anything on all that would be greatly helpful.

When you're in labor they check every so often to see how dilated you are.. you have to be at 10 to push.. as for bleeding, you will bleed from 2-6 weeks after delivery and you're not allowed to use tampons..most the time the hospital will give you these giant pads.. I didn't tear with my first but i had three "tears" with my son that were small enough that i didn't need stitches & it didn't hurt.. i didn't end up with a episiotomy either. labor was fairly easy with both. i didn't get the epidural with the first and i did with the second (i prefer the epi lol). with my second son i had a 3-4 foot mirror at the end of the bed to watch the delivery, it was awesome!

group beta step is a bacterial infection that about 30 percent of women carry while pregnant. doesnt hurt you at all but if passed through to the baby during delivery could have some severe consequences. If you test positive for it they just give you antibiotics during delivery to prevent baby from getting it. no big deal at all. and the test for it is just a swab on the outside of your vagina and anal opening. they dont put the qtip thing in you

Awesome thank you so much ladies for all of your input. I was still freaking out a little before the appointment but once the photo of the baby came up it all changed. Actually seeing the baby MOVE we amazing! And hearing the heartbeat made me, my mom and husband all cry. It is still awkward and uncomfortable but it is definetly worth it. My EDD is October 2nd =) Thanks everyone!

Awesome thank you so much ladies for all of your input. I was still freaking out a little before the appointment but once the photo of the baby came up it all changed. Actually seeing the baby MOVE we amazing! And hearing the heartbeat made me, my mom and husband all cry. It is still awkward and uncomfortable but it is definetly worth it. My EDD is October 2nd =) Thanks everyone!