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If it's a really bad issue, it could already be infected, and infections can spread to the rest of his body. Yes it's his fault, but bottom line is that I wouldn't want DH to get really sick just because I'm trying to teach him a lesson. He really needs to start taking care of his teeth though, that is absolutely ridiculous that an adult can't take care of his own mouth. I would also tell him he can pick extra hours or do other odd jobs to make up for the money y'all are spending on his dental care.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ✿LilyBear09✿:</b>" Well, it was stupid of him not to take care of them, but that being said, he needs to get them fixed. ... [snip!] ... his mouth is very dangerous. Does he plan to take care of them once they're fixed, or is he going to continue to let them rot?"</blockquote>


He wouldn't have had 3 major tooth infections this year if he planned on taking care of them.
Plus we only have a 400 a month income. His dentist bill would be all that or I would have to cut something out to make payments. Which would be hard because I can only afford to buy what we need.


I know it's a serious thing. I just really don't want to be even more stressed about money for him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" I know dental work can be super expensive. Have you seen if you can try and get a payment plan arranged ... [snip!] ... least go too, even if it's just once a year. There may not be anything that appears to the eye, but underneath maybe different."</blockquote>


I can't get approved for a card because I don't have any credit yet.

DH had a card but he maxed it out with dentist appointments and is to stupid to pay for it so its like 150 past the limit because of lack f payments and interest. I've been paying minimum on it for a few months so I think we should have it down to just maxed out now.

I would really rather my kids to our dentist instead of DH but he always is in such urgent need that me and the kids get put behind. Which is BS because I'm not his mom and I'm sick of taking care of him like he's my child and not my spouse.
I'm thinking of ditching this problem on his mom so I can look after my own for once.

Like smurf! I've need my wisdom teeth pulled for 2 years now and it keeps getting pushed aside for his smurfing needs.
(Sorry I was mad) lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sara Go:</b>" He should go, then get a part time job to pay you back."</blockquote>


In order for me to pay for it I have to give up some of my kids needs and I really don't want to do that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vivian [♥]:</b>" I definitely understand where you're coming from. But you can't turn back time, the ache is there and ... [snip!] ... it's only going to get worse and could possibly affect other teeth even if he DID start taking c are of them. He needs to go."</blockquote>


But every 3-4 months for a year because he can't brush his teeth is rediculous and NEEDS to be talked about IMO.

<blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:</b>" If it's a really bad issue, it could already be infected, and infections can spread to the rest of his ... [snip!] ... also tell him he can pick extra hours or do other odd jobs to make up for the money y'all are spending on his dental care."</blockquote>

I'd rather pull the tooth out with pliers instead of giving him money  

I'm sooo stressed all ready.
I can't handle all these money issues alone, DH thinks I have a never ended supply of money.
I got him a babysitting Job on Thursday it pays 40 an hour if he doesn't do it then its safe to say he's not getting dental work done.
Is that fair?

We only have a 400 a month income.  

Quoting Mommy|Of2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:</b>" If it's a really bad issue, it could already ... [snip!] ... he doesn't do it then its safe to say he's not getting dental work done. Is that fair? We only have a 400 a month income.  "

some dental clinics will bill you based on your income. you wont have to pay much.

Well since he refuses to grow up, tell him to get a loan from mommy. And the next time this happens he can do the same thing.

Tell him to get a job too, on his own, you shouldn't have to find him jobs as well.

He needs to man up.

Sorry you have to deal with another child.