Quoting Ms. Danielly Belly:" Ok so ladies and ok just curious to see how you feel about this topic, let me start by saying that because ... [snip!] ... kids. I know it's not right to judge a person unless your in their shoes. But just out if curiosity what's your take on it?"
Unless there are extenuating circumstances (like say someone's fertility is leaving & if they don't TTC now, they won't be able to ever) then I think it is morally & ethically weak to TTC when you can't actually afford to pay for what your children need. I also think more people can
afford it than they seem to think,because they get confused between what is "nice to have" and what you actually need. Like babies for instance, so many people are willfully unwilling to even seriously consider cloth diapering. It is MUCH less expensive though. You don't need
bouncy seats & all that stuff. It's nice, but totally unnecessary. Kids don't need brand new clothing or all brand names, all the electronics, cable TV or satellite, etc, etc. If people were willing to dial back on the material items in their life, a lot more people COULD afford the needs of a child. I have known far too many mommas that are on a load of assistance that shop retail for themselves & their kids while getting diapers at the baby pantry. It makes me gag. I buy 2nd hand for almost everything (the rare exception is either when I can't find it 2nd hand & I've looked OR underwear/socks) & I have never gotten assistance or needed it in any way. I have my home paid off & cars paid off, etc. If I wanted to be an idiot, I could shop at ANY store I wanted to - but I know it's a total waste of money & that my kids will much prefer a college fund than clothing from Macy's & expensive stupid gadgets they don't need. It is no
show of money to be a walking around with your EBT in $200 heels. It just looks trifling.