how would you approach your partner ...

and tell them that you want to cut down your living expenses drastically? I want to get rid of our satellite tv temporarily, as well as cut down our internet plan, and refinance the car (its currently at 18% because we got it when I wasn't working). I just know that most of this he is going to not want to do.

Its not like we're broke but I would be far happier just easing off our expenses and getting on our feet and a good heap of savings put away.

I would basically approach him by asking 'how would you feel about ......' And see what he says from there. My Dh would probably be open to it, because he loves to save money lol.

Quoting [♥]Mrs. Morgan:" I would basically approach him by asking 'how would you feel about ......' And see what he says from there. My Dh would probably be open to it, because he loves to save money lol."

I know he's gonna reject getting rid of satellite tv because he's going to lose his sports ... but I'm willing to compromise and keep the higher internet (its only $9 a month) and let him stream it through the x-box for a quarter of the price.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" and tell them that you want to cut down your living expenses drastically? I want to get rid of our satellite ... [snip!] ... broke but I would be far happier just easing off our expenses and getting on our feet and a good heap of savings put away."</blockquote>




We've done exactly the same thing. My fella has wrote all our outgoings down and then worked out how much we will save a month it adds up so try that

cant you do it then tell him after lol.

sit down with him, have a list of what you think CAN be cut... and how much you feel you WANT cut, and how much you feel NEEDS to be cut. talk to him about what is most important to him and be open to how he feels. I resented my ex for years because he wouldn't "allow" TV... he thought it was an unnecessary expense. I felt like he was controlling, and parenting me instead of being a spouse.

he might be more willing to cut the internet. Or... if you say you feel one has to go.. he might choose to cut the satellite and not feel like you made him get rid of it.

I'd be honest, those aren't bad ideas and they will save you money. What exactly are you worried about in his reaction?

Quoting Idlehands:" I'd be honest, those aren't bad ideas and they will save you money. What exactly are you worried about in his reaction?"

Oh I'm not worried about his reaction ... its not like his angry or violent or anything. I know the car thing will be ok ... especially if we shop around together when he's on holidays. The foxtel will be the issue BUT w pay $100 a month now ... if we cut it down to xbox it'll only be $32 a month ... I'm willing to compromise.

Quoting Destiel:" Oh I'm not worried about his reaction ... its not like his angry or violent or anything. I know the ... [snip!] ... be the issue BUT w pay $100 a month now ... if we cut it down to xbox it'll only be $32 a month ... I'm willing to compromise."

Then just approach it like you did us.

I wasn't implying he would be violent or anything- I just meant are you worried he would be resistant?

Quoting Idlehands:" Then just approach it like you did us. I wasn't implying he would be violent or anything- I just meant are you worried he would be resistant?"

No I know you weren't ... just saying I'm not scared of his reaction. I just know he'll be upset and then instead of cutting back insisting on working even harder to pay for it.

I'd tell him that you're not comfortable with your current financial situation and ask him if he will sit down with you and brainstorm ways to save. You can bring up your ideas and he might even have a few of his own. I'd suggest the most conservative ideas before bringing up what you're willing to compromise on. It will sound better if you go from "I want to get rid of the internet" down to "I'm willing to keep it but go with a cheaper plan". In other words, don't forget your bargaining skill.

I'm so curious as too why your obsessed with money...
Is it an OCD thing. Not being an smurf just curious.

Quoting Monkey Nuts:" I'm so curious as too why your obsessed with money... Is it an OCD thing. Not being an smurf just curious."

she has a new baby coming and wants to save money? I think that's pretty typical. Anyone who gets pregnant and does NOT take a look at their finances... something is wrong with them.

Quoting snglemama:" she has a new baby coming and wants to save money? I think that's pretty typical. Anyone who gets pregnant and does NOT take a look at their finances... something is wrong with them."

I think it's because even before being pregnant it came across that Destiel has a lot of anxiety about money and she (correct me if I'm wrong Helen) has suffered/suffers from OCD (as she was a hoarder before, *I think, I could have the wrong person).

I don't think Monkey Nuts was trying to be a bitch.

Quoting Idlehands:" I think it's because even before being pregnant it came across that Destiel has a lot of anxiety about ... [snip!] ... (as she was a hoarder before, *I think, I could have the wrong person). I don't think Monkey Nuts was trying to be a bitch."

oh I know. I didn't take it like that. I was just saying... this is absolutely normal. I'm proud of her for looking at things starting now. If she obsesses over it.. that's another thing.