re: XXX

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jenna+1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" No she should put it towards savings and ... [snip!] ... on the way. They are way more expensive than animals and if you don't learn to budget now it will be even harder when he comes!"</blockquote>




This!!!

:<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" No she should put it towards savings and the baby not something frivolous."</blockquote>




  or feed her damn dogs!

Quoting Baby_Majick:" Don't feel bad.... he needs to learn to grow up personally.... he can't act this way when he has a baby ... [snip!] ... animals all come first before we buy things.... and if he gets mad, oh well he needs to learn. Sorry don't mean to be blunt... "

no its fine! the problem is he's used to his mom buying him everything. Its sad but we've never had to even buy TP cause his mom keep us stocked to the point I don't even have anywhere to store it! I actually told his two days ago I wanted to buy my own TP! lol I don't like the kind she buys its cheep... but it is free  

and this is the first time my babies haven't had enough food....

Quoting B-Baby:" no its fine! the problem is he's used to his mom buying him everything. Its sad but we've never had ... [snip!] ... like the kind she buys its cheep... but it is free   and this is the first time my babies haven't had enough food...."

What happens when its your kid?

Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" No she should put it towards savings and ... [snip!] ... on the way. They are way more expensive than animals and if you don't learn to budget now it will be even harder when he comes!"

wht i do is typically when i get paid i pay all bill buy food/dogfood and then splurge on us rather it be dinner household items or baby stuff. this time they just happened to run out of food 3 days for I get paid.
but was in my budget for payday....

Quoting B-Baby:" wht i do is typically when i get paid i pay all bill buy food/dogfood and then splurge on us rather ... [snip!] ... or baby stuff. this time they just happened to run out of food 3 days for I get paid. but was in my budget for payday.... "

You should have a savings account not be splurging. That way when something happens you can cover it and its no big deal.

Quoting B-Baby:" no its fine! the problem is he's used to his mom buying him everything. Its sad but we've never had ... [snip!] ... like the kind she buys its cheep... but it is free   and this is the first time my babies haven't had enough food...."

uhm sorry to say this but a parent helping their child is fine. It's just there has to come a point when the child helps themselves. I think both you and your SO need to grow up. He will soon have a child to provide for, and you too. I seriously think that you will have the roughest time being parents if you don't figure this out now. Do you seriously want to fight in front of your child? Or separate and have to split your time with your child? It doesn't matter if this is the first time or millionth time, you don't even buy your own TP? put that money towards dog food. Babies are expensive, not dolls to dress up. And they need someone to set good examples for them, like how to handle money NOT blow it on partying and gifts. You guys seem to be living beyond your means, it's time to stop pretending like you have money that you don't.

<blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" well they have food for tomorrow and i was planning on SO buying their food. but he blew it.. so now ... [snip!] ... to do) leave him there and just let him digg his own grave.. I just keep hoping that he'll get his smurf together before baby.. "</blockquote>

Babies don't fix the problem...that smurf is for movies and fairy tales. This runs deeper than just getting/giving something. This baby is going to rock your world overnight and if you aren't at least on some sort of firm ground, things are only going to get worse. Sounds like you just may have to pass on the earrings and if he throws a fit tell him to get used to it and shove a binky in his mouth.

Quoting Mak&Row:" <blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" well they have food for tomorrow and i was planning ... [snip!] ... you just may have to pass on the earrings and if he throws a fit tell him to get used to it and shove a binky in his mouth."

sorry this made me lol
which I needed...  

<blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" wht i do is typically when i get paid i pay all bill buy food/dogfood and then splurge on us rather ... [snip!] ... or baby stuff. this time they just happened to run out of food 3 days for I get paid. but was in my budget for payday.... "</blockquote>




Sounds like you have poor budgeting. It's time you start a savings and quit buying dumb smurf. I think you are really trying to ignore the fact that he is totally using you. Do you want to be smurf on forever?

Quoting ILOVEWINE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" wht i do is typically when i get paid i pay all ... [snip!] ... dumb smurf. I think you are really trying to ignore the fact that he is totally using you. Do you want to be smurf on forever?"

well of course not...

I am sorry to say this but he is using you! My best friends husband does this to her regularly and she takes him back over and over bc they are married and have 3 children. He cares only about himself and what he can get from her. He has stolen money from her, when they are separated he refuses to pay any money towards the children she continues to spoil him buying him a phone so they can keep in touch bc his own mother turned his phone off bc she was tired of him using her as well! He uses everyone he comes into contact with. He lied to his mother to get money from her. He even used my husband whom is his best friend. People like this don't change because of a child hunny. Open your eyes and put you and your child first. I know this is hard to hear and I am not trying to make you feel bad but if you don't see this you will end up like my friend absolutely miserable and your child suffering.

He can learn trust me! My husband was selfish.... when we first got together and even before our first daughter together was here.... he was young and spoiled... so I know where you are coming from, but he did grow up.... but he had to be shown... that this is not acceptable.

Why are you even buying him things? He sounds like a douche bag to me.
You are buyng him all that and expecting a present on return when you know he's not going to get you anything, Instead of getting him that valentines present use that money to feed your dogs and maybe even pamper your self with a spa day since he's not going to do anything for you anyways.

This really scares me. What if your baby needs special formula or something? How are you going to afford it if you can't even feed your dogs?