How Do I Say Sorry?

Here's the background...
Me and SO have been arguing a bit, nothing serious really but I feel like I need to say sorry but also get my point across as to why I'm being so bitchy lately. Basically, I want a different car than what we have. There's nothing wrong with it that we know of, we just put a lot of work into it. It's just that it's a buick and I hate it. It needs a paint job and is a V6. I want something a little smaller. It has low miles so he wants to keep it. I said fine and dropped it. So now that our taxes are coming he wants a new badass tv. We have a perfectly working tv. And his truck just went out so we need to look into buying another truck or car. So he said a car, and I got so excited thinking I'd get it, but no its for HIM to drive to work. Hence, I'm still stuck with the piece of smurf ugly ass car I don't want to drive. And it's MY tax return and school refunds we're mainly going to be saving to buy a decent vehicle. I know I sound spoiled, I've just always have a nice sedan and this car looks like it came out of WWIII. The engine is just really good. So I told him smurf no get another truck then and I'll drive that if I need to go somewhere when you're gone. I'm not investing money into something only YOU get to use.

This has been bugging me a lot so I've been picking small fights with him and treating him like smurf pretty much and I know I'm wrong to be mean but am I also wrong in being bothered that when I want something he can say no but if HE wants it we have to get it. And its like this with some other things but they aren't important enough to me like this car is to be upset about. So I want to text him right now and say sorry, but this bothers me a lot when you do this and I really want a different car and you keep saying no but when you smurfing want something it's all go for it. And the thing that really urks me is its under MY name! I paid for it, he's just been working on it and we've both been buying the parts its needed and whatnot. So why should he get the say?

Sorry it's so long, back to my question, what should I say or how should I say? Or should I even say anything but sorry to him? Am I being too bitchy and unreasonable?

Why don't you just get the damn thing painted?

Say exactly what you said on here lol. "Sorry I have been a little bitchy about this, and I dont wanna fight, but I really think this situation is unfair because........."

Be glad you have a vehicle even. Its rough having two little ones under the age of 3 living in the middle of bumsmurf Egypt with no vehicle since your truck broke down. I'd take a smurffy looking vehicle as long as it ran. Better than nothing.

Quoting S*its & giggles:" Be glad you have a vehicle even. Its rough having two little ones under the age of 3 living in the middle ... [snip!] ... Egypt with no vehicle since your truck broke down. I'd take a smurffy looking vehicle as long as it ran. Better than nothing."

I know it is, I'm trying to be more appreciative it's just our original plan was to buy it, then fix it up and sell it for something better for the baby. And then he changed it to keeping it. I guess I can just deal with it for now cuz I sound like a spoiled brat. I'm sorry to hear that though   we were in that spot not too long before we got this car.

Do you really feel sorry or is the sorry just an opening to make your point? Because if all you are going to say is "I'm sorry BUT." it's not really an apology. I would say "I'm sorry I've been picking fights, some things are bothering me and I'd like to talk with you about them." Don't just tack an "I'm sorry" on the front of an attack and that is what it will seem like if it's in front of "But YOU did this and YOU do that and I'm pissed off by your selfishness.".

Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" Say exactly what you said on here lol. "Sorry I have been a little bitchy about this, and I dont wanna fight, but I really think this situation is unfair because.........""

 
just went through almost the same situation. except I have no car the SO had a single cab truck. He has a son and we had our daughter in december. hopefully things go better for you than me we now have his old truck that does nickle and dime us to death and he has a new truck that still only has 3 seat belts for a family of 4. not to mention its a 78 but looks nice and has a 6 inch lift and 40 in tires which basically mean a GAS HOG!!!!

Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" Why don't you just get the damn thing painted?"

He said he is going to soon, I guess I'm more upset just because I want something and can't have it, but when he wants something we get it. I'm just being a whiney brat huh? But should he get the new tv then?

Quoting S*its & giggles:" Be glad you have a vehicle even. Its rough having two little ones under the age of 3 living in the middle ... [snip!] ... Egypt with no vehicle since your truck broke down. I'd take a smurffy looking vehicle as long as it ran. Better than nothing."

This isn't about you and your situation. I really hate when people try to guilt others into feeling better about their situation because joe schmo has it worse. If you want some sympathy post your own thread, don't make the OP feel guilty because your situation sucks. This isn't about you or your problems.

I somewhat know how you feel. Me and SO have my truck that he takes to work and I want to sell it and get a car before the baby since it has a huge lift and when I used to babysit I had to carry around a step stool to get an infant in a car seat into the truck since Im only five feet tall. Since its MY truck I don't see why he should have a say but any time I bring it up he argues and says I cant sell it. Even though we have had a ton of problems with it.

Quoting 3 little monsters:" Do you really feel sorry or is the sorry just an opening to make your point? Because if all you are going ... [snip!] ... that is what it will seem like if it's in front of "But YOU did this and YOU do that and I'm pissed off by your selfishness.". "

No I really am sorry about being a brat and starting argument because I'm in a bad mood. That's why I need advice because I DONT want to attack him again I just want him to understand I'm moody and that is what's bothering me and I don't mean to be so bitchy about it. But that sounds much better than what I woud of thought of lol

and dont text him wait until you can talk to him

Quoting Emma Catherine's mommy:"   just went through almost the same situation. except I have no car the SO had a single cab truck. ... [snip!] ... a family of 4. not to mention its a 78 but looks nice and has a 6 inch lift and 40 in tires which basically mean a GAS HOG!!!!"

Our 77 chevy just went on us! So I though this would work out we'd get a new car and both be happy we kept the buick and I got a different car. But I'm just not going about this the right way. I'm so impatient! That's my problem  

Quoting Brookie99:" I somewhat know how you feel. Me and SO have my truck that he takes to work and I want to sell it and ... [snip!] ... have a say but any time I bring it up he argues and says I cant sell it. Even though we have had a ton of problems with it."

Men, it has to be on their terms!! I know I'm being a brat because I just want a prettier car. But is that so horrible? I know others don't have vehicles, but I worked two jobs while going to school to buy one. I DO work for my smurf, so I'm not just handed things and not appreciative of them. I hope you guys find a compromise!

Quoting Rydicule91:" Our 77 chevy just went on us! So I though this would work out we'd get a new car and both be happy we ... [snip!] ... the buick and I got a different car. But I'm just not going about this the right way. I'm so impatient! That's my problem  "

same here im constantly irritated because of the situation and it is causing a lot of fights im sorry your going through it I hope it gets better