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I would urge her to go see a doctor ASAP. If she does have it maybe it's early enough that they can get rid of it.

Quoting and then there were 3.:" She has been acting weird for a few weeks now, acting out of the ordinary. My mother is NOT lovey dovey, ... [snip!] ... how to take this, I don't want to lose my mom. What can I do? I'm almost 2000 miles away from her. This is so overwhelming. "

I would tell her that it's very important that she goes to the doctor. Like NoName said if it's early enough they can do something about it. Everyday she doesn't do something about it is another day the cancer will spread. It is very important for her to go. My BIL (my sister's husband) had to see his mother die from Colon Cancer because she never went to the doctor and by the time she had symptoms it was stage 4 and nothing they could do for her.

Beg her to go! It's not time to wave the white flag, not yet! My mom was diagnosed with double breast cancer 4 years ago in December. She was given 5 years max to live with surgery and aggressive therapy. She had a double mastectomy and went a totally natural route. If she had 5 years, she wanted to enjoy them, not be sick from treatments. She has been cancer free for 3 plus years now!! Btw--her cancer did not show up through mammogram or ultra sound. It was only revealed through breast MRI. The type of cancer she had grew in "sheets" through out her breast. Don't stop until she gets answers, trust instincts--they are there for a reason!

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Funny you should have wrote this.. Today my dad told me he has bowl cancer.. I should have seen the signs, he was making his will talking about his wishes.. I feel so guilty I never saw it.

My mother was not a lovey-dovey type person either. Very rarely hugged or said "I love you". We're completely different people. For a very long time, I honestly thought she hated me; it seemed like she wasn't capable of being nice to me. She told me Christmas Eve of 2009 that she had stage 3 breast cancer. I was absolutely heart broken. It IS incredibly overwhelming; I was terrified I was going to lose my mom. She barely spoke to me for months after that - wouldn't answer the phone, wouldn't call me back. I resorted to mailing letters & cards (she didn't text at the time or email) just so she would know I was thinking about her & that I loved her.

She went through 18 weeks of chemo, had a double mastectomy & is in remission today as far as we know. I realize *now* that in those months that she barely talked to me, she was just in a bad place & needed that time to sort through her own thoughts & feelings. At the time, she was convinced it was the end for her. Facing your own mortality? I can't imagine I would handle that very gracefully... Eventually she let me in & let me love her through it. Today she is my best friend.   For 24 years I thought she couldn't stand me. After breast cancer, she is a completely different person. She is motherly, loving, affectionate, sweet & dependable. I couldn't ask for a better momma.

I would try to encourage her to see a doctor & to take care of herself. Remind her that you love her & want her to stick around, ya know? My mom & grandmother are SO private about their medical stuff - they like to keep things hush-hush - like if you don't talk about it, it's not real or something. (But they don't have ANY problems getting all up in my business about mine. HaHa) Maybe she's still trying to sort through her own overwhelming thoughts & feelings… What to do? Personally I would be persistent in wanting to know what's going on with her, but at the same time remember to be patient. Maybe write her an email or letter, letting her know you're concerned? I'm so sorry you're going through this.