Soon to be In laws vent. pointless post.

First of all I know this is stupid to get upset over but I can't really help that it is bothering me. My Fiance's brother and his wife have been trying to start drama with me over facebook. About this time last year when my fiance was deployed his SIL and I got into a huge fight. As in she stopped talking to me. I tried apologizing a million times and admitted that I had acted childish but that she had also. I apologized all year long, kept trying to contact her and re-start our friendship (messages and texts saying stuff like "Hi how are you?" or "long time no talk" or "Hey how are you doing with Kyle being gone?" as his brother was deployed not long after he was). Well she refused to respond to me so I just stopped trying. I then messaged her and him around Christmas to try to get their address to send them a Christmas card. They didn't respond to me, so I got it from the boys' mother (my soon to be MIL). Well the other day she made a rude comment on one of my photos of us calling my Fiance a toolbag. So I said "Um excuse me? Don't you think that is a rude ass thing to say to your brother-in-law Cindy?" well turns out it was his brother who was on his wife's profile. I just dropped it at that point. His brother kept commenting trying instigate a fight. Fiance finally stepped up and said something to him telling him to cut it out and stop acting like a child. Well today the SIL messages me telling me I need to leave them alone. I pointed out that other than sending them a Christmas card that is what I have been doing and it was her husband that bothered us the other day. To which she said "i don't care ~ok~, you joked around with my husband too before dont u remember? so which means you are an rude ass as well???" I ignored her didn't respond and removed her from my friends list.

Yes I joked around with your husband back when we were all still friends but I didn't make rude comments calling him a toolbag or anything. If I had made a comment like that on one of her pictures all hell would have broken loose. I hate that this annoys me but I also hate the double standard going on here. The worst part is his brother is six years older than me and his SIL is eleven years older than me and they are acting like teenagers. Its just frustrating that I am being attacked and have to sit here and take it because my fiance thinks that is the best way to make it stop. They do this every few months and I'm just supposed to take it.

Like I said I know this is stupid to get upset over and that the whole situation is really childish but it is frustrating and upsetting me that people so much older than me are acting so much younger. I just needed to vent, this is kind of a pointless post.

The whole thing reminds me of highschool.

Pretty much what it feels like too. I feel SO, SO stupid for letting it upset me, but for some reason it still does.

Just ignore it and move on family smurfing sucks at the end of the day be the bigger person.

Thank you I'm trying I just needed to vent and someone who is completely removed from the situation to remind me to do so. It would be way to easy to play into it, but it would not be worth it in the end.

Quoting I declare a Time War:" Thank you I'm trying I just needed to vent and someone who is completely removed from the situation to ... [snip!] ... from the situation to remind me to do so. It would be way to easy to play into it, but it would not be worth it in the end. "

Venting always helps. The way we see it (DH and I) we dont need the drama from anyone. We dont care who you are or how we know you. If you start drama in our lives, we will cut you out of it. We are extremely happy this way lol.

I feel that way too but at the same time family means so much to me. But I'm starting to think cutting them out might be for the best. But its his younger brother and wife so cutting them out isn't really my call and either way they will always be there. I just need to take some deep breaths and calm down.

I think I would have cut off contact completely and ignored anything posted. Just delete it and go about your life. Being the bigger person would be just rolling your eyes and going on like it didn't happen. I don't even see why you would have them on your friends list and able to see/comment your pics. They made it pretty clear they don't want to kiss and make up.