Do I have to Recieve Child Support?

I just recently found out that I am pregnant with my first child. The father and I were never in a relationship, and this baby was completely unexpected and unplanned. When I told the father, he pretty much told me to get an abortion or get out of his life. I'm pro-life, so that's not the issue here. The issue for me is when I have this baby, I don't want anything from the father unless he wants to be involved in its life. I already told him I'm not going to try to get child support from him and I'm not going to force him to know his child unless he wants to. But I've been told by several people that the state will make him pay child support regardless of what I want.
So I guess my question would be, what steps can I take to not have the father pay child support? Will something as simple as not revealing who the father is be enough to prevent it? Or does it really not matter what I want?

They will only try and make him pay if you file for public assistance from what I have been told.

They will look for him for support if you get any kind of aid, medicaid, food stamps, cash assistance etc. I guess tell them it was a one night stand and you know nothing about him?
I'm not really sure.
But if you're not receiving any aid it shouldn't matter.

The state usually won't make him pay child support unless you are on some kind of state aid. If you plan on using medicaid or fs then they will put the father on child support so they can get some of their money back.

If you are on public assistance, absolutely.

If there is another parent out there capable of paying for the child, the state wants them to step up.

The state will go after him for CS if you file for any government benefits.

But if you absolutely do not want him involved, and he doesn't want to be involved...... I guess I'd recommend not putting him on the birth certificate... but it's very shady to do that if you're going to be recieving assistance.

No. But you should. Your child's father should be taking responsibility for the life he created. And frankly he's probably more likely to be involved if he's financially responsible for the child.

If its the difference between the government helping you support your child, or the child father, the answer is obvious.

No, but here in FL now if u get any type of help they will go after them... They can't find my son's father so its w/e and even if they did they told me i wont get anything from him.... I wouldn't change my son for the world but wish i could change who i procreated with.... My daughters father lives with me and we are married so he is on my case so they dont go after him.

If the courts deem a particular amount of support, than I don't feel that its your choice to refuse it. The money would be for your child, to improve THEIR quality of life. If for some reason you didn't want to use it, save it for college. Whether or not he WANTS the baby is of no consequence

I'm not sure how things work in the States.. I was on assistance after the birth of DD1 due to a miscommunication with my previous employer & ended up finishing my education. Sperm donor has not paid one cent to me for CS. I don't want his money. He's never laid eyes on DD & I hope it stays this way.

I just told the judge I didn't want it so they didn't do it.

Quoting crazy coupon lady:" I just told the judge I didn't want it so they didn't do it."

Here if u get help child support goes to court for you... Like they dont even make u show up, because there not going to let u have a say u have to do what child support tells u. Atleast thats how it is where i am

<blockquote><b>Quoting That-Girl:</b>" If the courts deem a particular amount of support, than I don't feel that its your choice to refuse it. ... [snip!] ... life. If for some reason you didn't want to use it, save it for college. Whether or not he WANTS the baby is of no consequence"</blockquote>




This.

I think it unfair to the child to not pursue support and visitation. It is their right to be supported by both parents both financially and emotionally.

Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting That-Girl:</b>" If the courts deem a particular amount of support, ... [snip!] ... child to not pursue support and visitation. It is their right to be supported by both parents both financially and emotionally."

Child support, yes....Visitation, no.

If the other parent doesn't want anything to do with the child, it is best not to bring them into it and have the child end up more hurt in the long run.

I never collected child support for my oldest. They were going to file for it when I was on state assistance in Colorado but I was only on it for a short time. They told me it was a requirement.