Quoting .Melinda.:" Hi. I am familar with this site but only recently joined to get some advice about some issues I am having. ... [snip!] ... separating is mentioned, he says he thinks about hurting himself if we separate and it makes me feel very bad and guilty... "
wow. went thru the saaammmeee thing with my ex! same friggin thing lol
i tried...we seperated for a few months...tried again...things got even worse so that was it for me! no support from anyone!
he had issues with pills and spent alot of money on pot/pills and turned violent, starts out arguing then throwing stuff at me, etc
i met my now fiance during our first seperation and couldnt be happier!
i have 2kids...my first isnt my ex's but we had a son together and like you pressured to be married. bad idea!
i tried and it doesnt work when its just one person doing the workk!
i know exactly how you feel. i stayed for my kids, but what example was i setting for my daughter? be treated like crap by a man? hell no.. and my son, what am i showing him? treating woman like garbage and property is ok? no! so i finally left.
it was a nightmare before we got custody papers. a friggin nightmare!!
but things are so much better! kids see a loving relationship now, they see their dad every other weekend now and it gives me a "break" so its worked out for the best for me.
how long do you want to be unhappy? how hard are you willing to make your marriage work? is this the kind of relationship you want your little one to immitate?
ask yourself those questions.