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What does he say to make you feel that way? But really if you feel like you are being emotionally abused you likely are. My dad always told me how I was a smurf and would work the streets and how worthless I was and my mom always said I was ugly and I sucked at everything I did and I was going to turn into a fat slob and I would never go anywhere. Smurf like that is emotional abuse imo. Esp when it is near constant.

does he constantly call you names, tell you your fat, ugly, etc?
or tell you he would rather be with so and so, your pathetic, that kind of thing?
Talk to the marriage counselor, they can help you out regardless if it is emotional abuse or not. they can help him if it is, or help you with your feelings about it, probably both no matter what though.
best of luck!

I would talk to the counselor privately. Emotional abuse is basically beating up your emotions. Saying things to tear you down, hurt you, make you feel like less of a person. Using words to control you.

I would think if you are a sane, rational person, the notion of the possibility would most likely say that you are in a bad situation.


Talk to a professional in private. They'll likely act as your compass.

You would know. It is hard to miss. Like the other momma said, speak to your counselor in private about it. You will have to do individual sessions anyway.

The fact that you even have to ask is a huge indicator. Either way, something is seriously bothering you, so it needs to be discussed either way. Maybe try to talk to the counselor in private first?

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First off huge hugs. He sounds controlling and yes very abusive. You need to get out. In my experience people like that dont change and counseling is not doing any good if you cant open up to each other in it. You are living in fear and treated like you are less than human. Its disgusting. You are worth more and you deserve better.

I wish I could hug you right now. I have been in your shoes, years ago. I hope you know that YOU DESERVE BETTER. You deserve to be loved and appreciated. You deserve to be able to enjoy the things you do without being made fun of. You deserve so much more than this.

You NEED to talk to the counselor about this. I know it is scary and I know it is hard, but it has to be done.

I would say at the very least there is a manipulation game going on. Journal these things and speak to your counselor about them.

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Thanks about the AVI i just changed it tonight. Try to have some individual sessions with the counselor and maybe they can help you figure out how to adress these issues. If you ever need to talk or just vent please feel free to pm me. I too suffer from depression and if it wasnt my husband I wouldn't be here today. You need a support system and your husband should be the center of it. I know how easy it is to let the depression take over and sometimes its comforting because its familiar. Its a very hard long road. I really hope you two can work on things and he can turn into a supportive husband instead of someone who is just tearing you down.

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