re: I'm 16 and I have a baby I need advice

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" No, I really don't. I really can't stand ... [snip!] ... when you are graduating with the same people you went to kindergarten with. I have had many of the same friends for 30 years."

I actually think the last sentence was a good point. I had recently transferred from a much smaller private school to a public school for my sophomore year of highschool. Because of that, I had acquaintances, but no real 'friends' that I would talk to outside of school and no one i stayed in contact with after I graduated. Highschool wasn't an accomplishment as much as it was something I had to do to go on to the next step. I remember highschool as pretty dull. I had a bunch of boring average classes and a bunch of bored teachers.

College though was different for me where I met people who were interested in the same stuff that I was and we worked our way through school together.

I think that once you have a baby, from what I've seen from my sister, you already missed out on your chance to do the typical high school thing. The typical highschool thing being where you grow and mature at a steady pace until you're ready to 'leave the nest' and move on to college and adult life. You need to grow up faster than your friends. Extra curricular activities don't happen. Going away to college for 4 years and living in a dorm doesn't happen.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Well that opportunity was never given to me since I had to move a lot. I think I turned out alright. ... [snip!] ... it out to be like it's some glorious thing and it's really not. Also, I love how you have me figured out after one thread."</blockquote>




I said it is different did I not? Who says it is glorious? It is a right of passage though. It is symbolic of leaving your youth behind and growing into adulthood. People that continue to relive high school have issues.

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Because what school he is accepted to ... [snip!] ... you say you are should have been able to challenge your generals at the university and get your degree at least 1 year faster."

I'm not bragging about it because he hasn't told anyone else. Seriously. He doesn't want to tell anyone until he makes his final decision because it's a HUGE move for him if he chooses to go.

I never once said I was better than my peers. I did say that they tend to be immature but that's factual. Also, I never said I was smart. I'm very good at standardized tests. The brief time that I was in school, I did horrible. I'm intelligent, but I really don't believe in the "greatness" that "traditional" schooling has to offer.

I did apply to two universities and I was accepted into both. I dropped the first one because a year into it, I realized the degree I was going for, I no longer wanted to do. So I dropped out. I was also running a business and raising my child alone while my husband was deployed at that time.

I put that stuff on the back burner because of a custody battle with DH's ex wife, a relocation, and some other private things. I am now starting school in September to get my BSN. The reason I didn't start this semester like I had originally planned is because this school only offers for the program to be started each September instead of every semester.

It is what it is. I choose to live my life as I see fit.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" I actually think the last sentence was a good point. I had recently transferred from a much smaller ... [snip!] ... your friends. Extra curricular activities don't happen. Going away to college for 4 years and living in a dorm doesn't happen. "</blockquote>




That is just it. Having a baby instantly throws you into adulthood. However, high school does offer some life skill building classes and opportunities. Here, they have a program called young families. It is basically daycare for the babies but, the mothers have to attend "parenting" classes at the daycare part of the school day. It teaches them budget, parenting skills, helps them get a life goal and implement it, it it even helps them rebuild confidence. Then they go to regular high school to get the pre-req's completed. If they want to go to college, young families helps them with the necessary steps. I think it is a wonderful program to encourage them to do right by themselves and their children rather than be a welfare mom with no end in sight.

I think they can still go away to college. It isn't going to be as easy as it was for me. It can still be done. Anything can be done with the right plan and determination. It is just harder for a young mother.

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Well that opportunity was never given ... [snip!] ... It is symbolic of leaving your youth behind and growing into adulthood. People that continue to relive high school have issues."

I don't know. I guess I don't really see it as a right of passage. I'm very happy with how my life has gone about. I don't care about the label of "Harvard." What I want to do in life doesn't require that. I have never been one to want a name. I really don't personally think that which school you go to dictates how well you will do in such a job but that's just me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I'm not bragging about it because he hasn't told anyone else. Seriously. He doesn't want to tell anyone ... [snip!] ... the program to be started each September instead of every semester. It is what it is. I choose to live my life as I see fit."</blockquote>




So, is this the 21/22 yr old brother who still lives with your parents that was accepted to an Ivy League school or the 16/17 yr old that just learned to read last summer, can't spell and has horrible grammar?

Also, you weren't unschooled as you said in here earlier and you are getting your CNA.

Your words, you don't "believe in unschooling".

Next.....

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I'm not bragging about it because he hasn't ... [snip!] ... as you said in here earlier and you are getting your CNA. Your words, you don't "believe in unschooling". Next....."

He does live with my parents. Doesn't mean he's not extremely smart.

I am getting my CNA as it's a prerequisite to be a CNA prior to entering nursing school.

And honestly, I don't believe in unschooling. Homeschooling? Sure. Unschooling? Not so much. It's too extreme.

I WAS unschooled for a small period of time, but I was homeschooled with a curriculum previous to that.

Next...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" He does live with my parents. Doesn't mean he's not extremely smart. I am getting my CNA as it's ... [snip!] ... extreme. I WAS unschooled for a small period of time, but I was homeschooled with a curriculum previous to that. Next..."</blockquote>




Liar!! I read your "unschooling" thread. Let's try this again shall we?

So smart that as of January 27th you didn't know if unschooled kids could get into college and yet in here, you wanted to argue that he was accepted to an Ivy League school. That happened really fast. Especially considering it isn't open enrollment time. What a miracle.

IDK where you are going to school at but, I have my BSN and CNA was NOT a pre-req. matter of fact, it isn't a pre-req anywhere. You don't go to a nursing "program" to get your BSN, you get it via University. No community college nursing program. You can get your RN via community college and go back later to get your BSN.

You have been here long enough to know better than to play these games. Tsk tsk

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" He does live with my parents. Doesn't ... [snip!] ... college and go back later to get your BSN. You have been here long enough to know better than to play these games. Tsk tsk"

This is why I never argue with you unless I'm CERTAIN I know my stuff lol

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" He does live with my parents. Doesn't ... [snip!] ... college and go back later to get your BSN. You have been here long enough to know better than to play these games. Tsk tsk"

Jesus. No. Also I'm not going to a smurfing community college. This is a specific four year program. This specific smurfing school makes having a CNA a pre requisite. Not every school is the same. And I didn't say that I didn't know kids can't get into college. I said I didn't know how as far as that kind of thing without a SAT or an ACT score.

Also, my brother did not tell me about this until I saw him this last week.

ETA:I just went back and re read. Judging by the fact that I made a very short reply on it, I was probably only half paying attention. I was doing something else while I was in that thread. Hence why I just left off of it halfway through.

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" This is why I never argue with you unless I'm CERTAIN I know my stuff lol"

Well, I do know my stuff. Different situations require different things. It's not a difficult concept.

Quoting Michael Westen:" Well, I do know my stuff. Different situations require different things. It's not a difficult concept."

No I mean cuz she knows where to find the right stuff and what's been said in the past and remembers it. She's just not one I'd screw with.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" This is why I never argue with you unless I'm CERTAIN I know my stuff lol"</blockquote>




Lol. There is a difference is misinformed and straight up lying. She was straight up lying. The fact she had the nerve to keep lying after I called her out tells me that this is a daily thing for her.

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" This is why I never argue with ... [snip!] ... straight up lying. The fact she had the nerve to keep lying after I called her out tells me that this is a daily thing for her."

Oh ohs

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" This is why I never argue with ... [snip!] ... straight up lying. The fact she had the nerve to keep lying after I called her out tells me that this is a daily thing for her."

Lmfao. Okay.

I'm not lying. Seriously I was like 20 different types of homeschooled and went to a few different public and private schools. I got the smurf end of that stick so I didn't have that perfect little upbringing like you supposedly had.

It was a lot more streamlined for my brothers. I was the stepchild. I kinda got thrown into a bunch of smurf. It is what it is.