How would you feel?

Okay so lets say that you have had a dream of marriage since you were little and you got married once and it didn't work out but your dream never went away. You find a guy who you love and care about and you two talk marriage. You look at rings online and wedding ideas and just the whole nine yards. Then the man you love so much hurts you but you decide to give him a second chance. He tells you repeatedly that he loves you does everything he can to gain your trust back, tells you he wants to still marry you and be with you and he will do whatever he can to prove to you he still wants it. Now in this situation you two aren't exactly financially stable but you make ends meet and you are still happy. One day you go to the mall and you are looking at random stores and your man decides he wants to take you into a jewelry store. You tell him you don't want to go in there and he INSISTS on taking you in even though in the back of your mind you are thinking finances. So he drags you in there has you sit down and try on all the beautiful wedding and engagement rings. He asks you which one you like makes you put them all on asking you which one is your favorite. What are you going to start to think??? Then after youre done he is just like okay lets go and drags you out of there. How would you feel what would think?? I just need opinions.TIA

Maybe he's just getting a general idea of what you like. Lots of guys do that years before they jump the gun.

If you are unsure of the relationship, the part I'd be worried about was my answer if he actually proposed.

I'm confused, you met a new guy and started planning all this with him but went back to the old guy?


I would think he was trying to get an idea of what I liked for when the time came to propose. But if we werent anywhere near that stage I'd think he was playing games.

Quoting pilot Jess:" Maybe he's just getting a general idea of what you like. Lots of guys do that years before they jump ... [snip!] ... jump the gun. If you are unsure of the relationship, the part I'd be worried about was my answer if he actually proposed."

Well he didn't propose but he told me he wanted to marry me. One thing I absolutely hate is window shopping. Now when it comes to clothes and stuff I don't mind it but if it is a dream of mine and all I don't like to look. Now He knows I hate it and he did this to me anyways. I got really upset because of the situation. I don't know if I over reacted or not. But he knows what I want and he knows I am serious. He also knows what ring I like and would want. I just felt like it was a tease. I got really upset and he turned it into a joke and started laughing and making fun of me. I got really upset.

I would think that he's planning on buying a ring. Or maybe getting a general idea of the price so he can start saving some money.

Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" I'm confused, you met a new guy and started planning all this with him but went back to the old guy? ... [snip!] ... of what I liked for when the time came to propose. But if we werent anywhere near that stage I'd think he was playing games."

Oh no i'm divorced since 2011 he isnt a new guy lol. i havent gone back to my ex

I see it as he is probably going to propose soon. Best wishes for you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting NicoleKMK:</b>" Well he didn't propose but he told me he wanted to marry me. One thing I absolutely hate is window shopping. ... [snip!] ... it was a tease. I got really upset and he turned it into a joke and started laughing and making fun of me. I got really upset."</blockquote>



I wouldn't marry someone that intentionally upsets me or is mean to me.

Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting NicoleKMK:</b>" Well he didn't propose but he told me he wanted ... [snip!] ... fun of me. I got really upset."</blockquote> I wouldn't marry someone that intentionally upsets me or is mean to me."

I'm honestly starting to second guess everything. =/

Quoting NicoleKMK:" Well he didn't propose but he told me he wanted to marry me. One thing I absolutely hate is window shopping. ... [snip!] ... it was a tease. I got really upset and he turned it into a joke and started laughing and making fun of me. I got really upset."

Aww, thats so mean. For him to intentionally mock you and laugh like that.

Quoting E-08 & I-12's : Mamii:" I see it as he is probably going to propose soon. Best wishes for you."

Well after this today he said it wasn't going to be anytime soon. That is why I feel like he is playing games.

Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" Aww, thats so mean. For him to intentionally mock you and laugh like that."

I know and I told him that.   He was all like Well I have a surprise on how I was going to propose to you if I did but how you are acting you are ruining it now. I even called my father and told him the situation and he said it was rude of him and he should have never have took me in there. I also asked my friend and even my ex husband and they all said the same thing. My boyfriend was just like well I am an smurf and you knew that before you hooked up with me.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting NicoleKMK:</b>" I'm honestly starting to second everything. =/"</blockquote>



Follow your gut. If there is a quiet whisper of doubt, don't ignore it. That ignoring of a whisper is a part of why the divorce rates are so high. People ignore the signs and rationalize why everything is great when it's not.

I'm divorced and remarried too. The difference between marriage #1 and #2?

Night. And. Day.

My first, everything was fine. Happy a lot of the time, but not perfect. He ended up cheating and I left.


My second, is amazing. My best friend, someone who always lifts me up and always wants my happiness over anything. And I have never doubted him.



Listen to that quiet internal dialog you're having!

Quoting NicoleKMK:" I know and I told him that.   He was all like Well I have a surprise on how I was going to propose ... [snip!] ... all said the same thing. My boyfriend was just like well I am an smurf and you knew that before you hooked up with me.  "

Whoa...its like he turned it around on you and then made excuses. Not cool

<blockquote><b>Quoting NicoleKMK:</b>" I know and I told him that.   He was all like Well I have a surprise on how I was going to propose ... [snip!] ... all said the same thing. My boyfriend was just like well I am an smurf and you knew that before you hooked up with me.  "</blockquote>




Why would you want to spend day and night for the rest of your life with a guy who rationalize being an smurf with "I'm an smurf. Deal with it"


Come on mamma!