Quoting .Solange.:" I hate when mothers use their child/ren as a reward or a punishment against the father, but if my child ... [snip!] ... presence or not a presence at all... I'm sad reading about your child asking about him and having meltdowns, poor baby..."
See, that's not what I'm trying to do. (Or at least, I think I'm not trying to do that)
If he had decided when the whole affair blew up in his face that he was still going to be a father, I'd feel differently. If he was still trying to be a father, and still wanting to fight for our family, we wouldn't be getting a divorce. We'd be getting counselling. That's what I wanted originally.
But he doesn't even know his son's name. He knows nothing about when he was born, or how much he weighed, or how much he weighs now. Nothing. He never even called or texted to ask about him.
I feel so bad for her. She just...it's beyond her. She doesn't understand how everything was so great, and then it just fell apart. She doesn't get why he's not around...She was always his girl. I just don't think it could do her any good seeing him, because I seriously doubt that he'll stick around. But I don't need to give him any ammunition, either. So I'm guessing that I'll have to take them, and just keep it short.