re: 12 yr old trying to breastfeed YOUR child...ok or not? D&D

Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>"   I wouldn't have even thought of doing something ... [snip!] ... in middle school so some may be curious about it. I wouldn't call CPS or assume she was doing it for a sexual or gross reason."

idk I guess it depends on how much a child is exposed to it.
I do agree calling CPS was a bit extreme.

Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" I wasn't addressing that. I ... [snip!] ... but since her actions were out of curiosity, she only needs to be talked to about the situation. So I guess we agree. Lol."

Lol. Love when people argue the same side out of miscommunication. Haha

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" Lol. Love when people argue the same side out of miscommunication. Haha"</blockquote>




Haha..I know, right?!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>" idk I guess it depends on how much a child is exposed to it. I do agree calling CPS was a bit extreme."</blockquote>

She was not in school for the summer so she was around consistently for the first 6-7 weeks. She was full of questions. LOL She never would have tried to nurse him herself.

Obviously it's not ''okay'', but there's nothing positive that will come out of calling cps. Make this a learning experience so that it never happens again, instead of scaring the hell out of her and making her close up about anything she may be curious about in the near future.

If you're linking breastfeeding with sexuality, then maybe the 12 year old isn't the problem here.

Quoting I love Kenzi:" ive seen posts on there of like a 6 year old pretending to breastfeed a doll even a 12 year old i wouldnt think it was weird but the whole no telling thing really gets me"

This... the no telling bit would have me uneasy. BUT... she was probably curious. She might be immature and really didnt know better. My niece is 12 and very immature mentally, I could see her being curious about something like this.

Id have the Mom talk to the child, but CPS? No. You call CPS if the child was sexually abusing the child, and get the child help because that probably means the child is being abused him/herself. But acting as if you were nursing, that's not abuse. Curiosity at the most.

Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>" idk I guess it depends on how much a child is ... [snip!] ... around consistently for the first 6-7 weeks. She was full of questions. LOL She never would have tried to nurse him herself."

lol yeah, I can understand wanting to ask all kinds of questions, I just don't know how I would feel about it if it were my own child.
Of course I wouldn't go to the extreme of calling CPS, but I'd feel a little uneasy about it, and have a talk with her. Maybe ask her if she had any questions about breastfeeding so she wouldn't feel like she was being attacked.

Quoting .Solange.:" Obviously it's not ''okay'', but there's nothing positive that will come out of calling cps. Make this ... [snip!] ... about in the near future. If you're linking breastfeeding with sexuality, then maybe the 12 year old isn't the problem here."

 

I'm a little disturbed that anyone would, but seeing how people are getting all up in arms over this...

People forget that twelve year-olds are still children. She was curious. I haven't breastfed (haven't had children yet) but am curious as to what breastfeeding is like. Granted, I'm not going around trying to breastfeed other people's babies, but I'm also not twelve years old.  

I don't think it's okay, but I do believe it was an innocent act. She was curious, and probably too embarrasssed to ask how it felt. CPS was way extreme.

Calling CPS for an act that SO MANY women are trying to make a normal, NON-SEXUAL act? She's still a child and is probably just curious - she does need to be talked to about this (by telling her she can ask any questions she wants, but breast feeding is for Mommy and Baby only), but that's it. This Mom had a HUGE over-reaction.

A 12 year old knows that is not appropriate. i would talk to her parents.

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Solange.:</b>" Obviously it's not ''okay'', but there's nothing positive that will come out of calling cps. Make this ... [snip!] ... about in the near future. If you're linking breastfeeding with sexuality, then maybe the 12 year old isn't the problem here."</blockquote>

I agree. Yes she should know better but she is still a child and I feel the mother seriously overreacted.

Well the CPS thing was going a little too far...but someone needs to have a chat with the girl and tell her not to do that again...that its for only the mother of the child..

Quoting 10 til Gwen:" Holy over-reaction. Breastfeeding is either sexual or it's not. She can't have it both ways. If it's ... [snip!] ... me out and I'd be having a chat with the kid and get parents, but my kid wasn't in danger or being abused. No need to call CPS."

That's a tad too oversimplified. PLENTY of people would get very upset over someone doing any number of things either to or with their child that they themselves do. I hear people say all.the.time that they spank their kids but no one else better. Hell I know there are people that would throw down with you if they heard you speaking to their child the way THEY speak to their child. So the idea that she'd call CPS for the 12 yr having her toddler suckle her breasts isn't all that outrageous. It's not likely how I would handle it - but it isn't all that crazy. That 12 yr old wasn't breastfeeding & she knew that....so it's not even like the spanking thing. She knew she made no milk & then elicited another child to help keep the secret, so she knew she shouldn't be doing it. It is strange behavior.

Quoting 10 til Gwen:" Holy over-reaction. Breastfeeding is either sexual or it's not. She can't have it both ways. If it's ... [snip!] ... me out and I'd be having a chat with the kid and get parents, but my kid wasn't in danger or being abused. No need to call CPS."

I agree 100%.