re: For stay-at-home moms - WWYD?

id say no...but my husband would never ask that he likes to work. I would say no because I am a lot cleaner than my husband so its easy for me to keep the house clean and I feel like he couldn't be as patient as I am with our son all day. He loves him but I know he would go crazy.

Actually, my SO is about to become a SAHD,.

This is something i NEVER thought would happen,. many men tend to feel that their traditional role is to be a provider,. even if the woman brings in income herself/

I have been a SAHM for some time, even with my kids in school. We live out in a country-ish area where there is not a lot of job opportunity if you dont have an open schedule,. and you may have to commute to find something decent. it is not always as easy as just "work while your kids are in school"....there is pretty much no outside the home work I can do strictly during my kids school hours (i do have a work at home gig). I am traditonal in the sense that I like my kids to come home from school to cookies and milk and a loving parent to hug them and spend time wikth them help them with their homework, talk about their day, and play with them. That has always been my role, but I have no problem with SO taking over that role,.

My SO has been out of the house for a few months (long story), but is returning on the 18th and he is going to take over the "housewife" duties, cooking, cleaning, maintenace,. PTA, school activities & extra-curriculars, errands, and looking after the kids, and just basically holding down the fort, and I am going to start an outside the home job. He has NEVER not worked (and he is 40),.....but I think he will be fabulous at being a SAHD (he loves to cook,. doesnt mind cleaning, i do it but hate it, he actually doesnt mind it so much, and is great with hands-on parenting),...so wish us luck....lol.

In a heart beat! Hopefully he waits till DD is at school though. It can get pretty boring at home all day.

Now that my kids are bigger, sure. I wouldn't be kosher with choosing for him to stay home while I worked with a child under 2...but over two is fine with me. He won't though, he wouldn't want to homeschool & if we would put them in school then we'd both work. No way in hell would I be okay with him staying home once the kids are both in school. LOL Talk about taking the easy part of being a SAHD.

I'd remind him that he was home for 9 months and gained 15 lbs doing nothing while I cleaned the house and took care of the kids... If he hasn't changed his mind, I'd make him prove to me why he should stay at home with the kids. I am not getting a job, just to come home and clean and cook... So he has to prove to me that he can do those things.

i'd go for , yes. i'd make sure i found a job that pays his current income first

If it wouldn't impact our finances negatively, then sure. I would want to give it a trial run, maybe leave him with DD alone during the hours I would work for a couple of days. See how he handled it. My DH is wonderful with our daughter but horrible with house work. If he couldn't keep up with both that would be a deal breaker. When I stopped working I told him that I would handled the house work. I would expect the same thing if he was a stay at home dad.

No. I don't have a degree yet and he's an Engineer, it would be a really stupid decision financially. I'll still make a lot less than him after I graduate (RN), and by then, both of our kids will be in school full time. Our plan is that my pay will be divided equally between our investments, savings, and vacation fund; while he maintains the other expenses, becoming a SAHD put a huge kink in our plans for the future.

he'd have to keep working until i finish school.

Nope I wouldn't be okay with it,he makes too much money.

Quoting bbbt:" If your husband/partner/baby-daddy/whatever you call him, approached you and said he wants to be a stay ... [snip!] ... and return to the work force to support your family, or would you insist he keep on working so you can stay home? Explain. "

If I made what he makes or more than yes I would. If he wants to be a stay at home dad then be my guest. Sometimes I wish it was the other way around just so he can truly see what I do all day. When he's home I am lazy because he's home and I take that as my lil break.

I've honestly dreamed of that! I miss feeling like a financial provider and I'm starting to hate being stuck in the house all the time (thank goodness I have going to school to help me with that right now)