Quoting P Pickle Pants:" I've been with my hubs over 11 years and I'm 28. When I'm not pregnant we have sex 3-5 times a month ... [snip!] ... I'm the one with the really high sex drive in our relationship. Your hubs is an ASS for saying he'd go get it elsewhere!"
We just started having sex again since the doctor gave me the go-ahead. Before that, I would tell DH that I was sorry that we weren't having sex, and I felt like I was unable to meet his needs, etc. He told me that since we haven't had sex, we've been focusing a lot on our relationship and he actually feels MORE intimate with me... he doesn't feel like he's lacking anything.
OP- there are other ways to be intimate. And in my personal experience as a woman, typically if I have no sex drive it's because my husband isn't meeting my needs. He's not making me feel secure, loved, cherished, sexy, etc during the day, so I'm not interested in sex when my needs aren't met. Tell your husband that men are like a microwave... ready to go at all times. Women are like an oven... we need to be pre-heated.