Co-sleeping

It never worked with my child. No matter how many times I try it out, I'm reminded of this. Last night it stormed and was thundering and lightning pretty badly, so he burst into our room. (and let me add that when your husband is laying right next to you, you're sound asleep, and an unknown person swings your bedroom door wide open at 2AM, your first thought is usually, "Welp. This is when I die!") He asked to sleep with us. How could we possibly say no to that? Poor guy was so scared! So he crawls up in bed with us and lays there whispering to himself and playing with my hair, pillows, etc for like two hours until the lightning stops and I tell him he has to go back to his own bed. I wish he would just fall asleep and let me cuddle him!!! He just gets excited or something!

i started co sleeping with DS wen he was a few months old. hes almost 3 now and we cant anymore because he gets to excited to sleep if we lay together. i miss cuddling with him =[

You can't co-sleep because your child gets excited about it & takes awhile to go to sleep?

we've coslept since birth, the only times ds won't sleep at bedtime is if my parenting has been slacking in the day and he's not had enough quality time. (obviously not including illness or whatever). If his 'emotional cup' isn't full then he will delay bedtime and want to play with me and spend more time reading and chatting and sometimes general arsing around in the bed. If i'm on top of things and haven't been preoccupied, and if he's had plenty of rough play and emotional connection with me in the day then he'll go straight to sleep at night.

I think it's partly a cognitive/developmental thing too. There would be many reasons for him to delay at bedtime when he was learning new skills for example, but since around age 2.5 he's consistently gone to sleep well at night time (unless i've been per-occupied as above).

He sleeps well beside me, but he takes up a lot of space and i'm beginning to consider he might do just as well and possibly better if he were in a queen bed of his own to sprawl out in.

Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" You can't co-sleep because your child gets excited about it & takes awhile to go to sleep?"

No. It doesn't "take him a while to sleep"... he doesn't go to sleep unless he's by himself. He never has. He's four now and I thought he would have enough self-control to lay there until he fell asleep, and he couldn't even do that. Lol. He fell asleep within minutes of me tucking him back into his own bed.


Why? All kids are supposed to be the same? If it works for one it HAS to work for all of them? Well not my kid. *shrugs*

I slept with my son since birth. After he started using his crib, he wouldn't sleep with me. It's the same issue, he gets too excited and just will not go to bed... Even if he's the one that runs into my room because he's scared. I miss cuddles

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Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" You can't co-sleep because your child gets excited about it & takes awhile to go to sleep?"

That was kinda snarky and uncalled for. She didn't say he takes a "while" to go to sleep...she said he won't go to sleep, period. It happens a lot, co sleeping doesn't work for everyone.

OP- My LO is only 5 months old, but he will not fall asleep if I put him in the bed with me. He babbles and plays with my face, and if I start to fall asleep he cries.

DS won't sleep in our bed either. He's 10 months old, and is the least cuddly child ever. He'll fall asleep in his crib by himself perfectly fine (although I almost always rock/nurse him to sleep- it's the only time he'll cuddle with me!), but the second he lays in bed with me, he's playing, no matter how tired he is. I miss co-sleeping  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" No. It doesn't "take him a while to sleep"... he doesn't go to sleep unless he's by himself. He never ... [snip!] ... bed. Why? All kids are supposed to be the same? If it works for one it HAS to work for all of them? Well not my kid. *shrugs*"</blockquote>

Not at all. It was a legitimate question because I wasn't sure if there was more to it than what you put out there. My question may not have been one where it was sugar coated with excitement but I do co-sleep with my infant so I was just curious as a new mother.... won't happen again  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katie[Cheeks Momma]:</b>" That was kinda snarky and uncalled for. She didn't say he takes a "while" to go to sleep...she said he ... [snip!] ... not fall asleep if I put him in the bed with me. He babbles and plays with my face, and if I start to fall asleep he cries. "</blockquote>

It was uncalled for? I only asked her a question! Out of genuine curiosity. Didn't mean for it to come off as offensive. She never once said he never goes to sleep in her bed nor did she say he doesn't fall asleep period until she replied to me. I am debating on how long I intend to co-sleep with my son so the basis behind my question comes from when I feel its appropriate to stop before complication such as him not being able to fall asleep are an issue