Wow, unbelievable stupidity

Last night I had something explode on me in the kitchen and I received second degree burns. As for the timing of this incident, DH had to go drop our son off by himself for court ordered visitations w looney tunes.

Our boy has been out of his mind unable to focus, having issues controlling himself now since Christmas vacation (well, actually this is ongoing, but it's gotten worse since break). So DH (trying to demonstrate the appearance of co parenting even though its with an ex who could care less and doesn't actually parent) tells looney tunes that Adrian has been having a really difficult week, getting into a lot of trouble, being really mean to his sisters... Etc.

Her response? Not "what has he done" or "sound like w are going to have to work on this" any number of typical responses that a parent who was concerned would ask, turns to him and says
"Why?" DH had to bite his tongue to refrain from giving one of many honest responses, the one he says came to mind was
"Because of prenatal drug exposure"

Um? Wow. To top it all off, he says she was high as hell and looked so absolutely junked out it was ridiculous. I know you are probably all wondering why DH even let out boy go with her. The cops typically don't show for visitation issues. She has been high at so many exchanges, thinking she has people fooled when its beyond obvious. I just don't get it.

Of course regardless of behavior, vacant and bipolar Disney dope has him doing a spend the night and running around no rules all weekend.
Wanna ask "Why" again?

I'm glad I wasn't there to see he high again- gets me to crying and worrying so much when this is the situation. Thank god she really only gets 6 days a month. But even that leaves DS struggling and troubled.

I just gotta say, I am so glad I don't have an ex like DHs. Not only is he (and myself) beyond tired of dealing with extreme crazy (which this is really nothing in comparison, just idiotic) but he is actually starting to get irritated with EVERY SINGLE one of our friends and family making fun of him for having married IT.

Even I'm part of the problem. I make fun of him every time he tells me about one of her stupid texts. I just can't help myself. I suppose I am just trying to make light of his past which he acknowledges as being the single most retarded thing he ever did in his life.

At least a beautiful son cam into this world, inspire of all his troubles. So every time DH goes off on tangents in private to me, our friends, or family, I joke with him "an you actually slept with that!" He use to ALWAYS laugh about it, but he is so beyond tired of her nonsense (she is still obsessed with him - she stalked the woman he was with before her and she is stalking me) that now he is actually angry with himself. He's not really the type to typically feel regret, so now I'm working on easing up on the jokes but its hard.

Anyways, big rant...

If he's worried he could. Always call the police & request a well child check. Then if they find anything he will have a report

<blockquote><b>Quoting M walls:</b>" If he's worried he could. Always call the police & request a well child check. Then if they find anything he will have a report"</blockquote>




She's a seasoned criminal. Whatever drug she's on, she probably conned a doctor for a prescription. DH says this is what she would do in past. Then she just buys extras on the street so she can get high. He says it was definitely an opiate, and those aren't hard for someone who has spent the last 15 years of her life pulling cons to fool a doctor into giving her. "Ow, the non existent back pain is so bad it's like an 8" bats her eyes, shows some cleavage, flirts. Even manages to sound of almost average iq because as a seasoned pharmaceutical con, she's done her research on the reason she requires so said drug and how the drug will benefit her and the things she's tried that don't work.

So pretty much, unless it was heroin again, which DH would need to be 100% on, he becomes a wolf caller. But he said its looking like it might be.

Ahh. Yeah that would be hard to prove she was abusing precription drugs. I'm sorry hopefully she will get tired of doing the parent thing & just disappear

<blockquote><b>Quoting M walls:</b>" If he's worried he could. Always call the police & request a well child check. Then if they find anything he will have a report"</blockquote>




Thank you, though- forgot to express my heartfelt ts.

I'm just on here ranting because we just got off the phone with my little dudesy while he was over at the grandparents house. I am just alway thrilled to hear that nothing ill has become of him while he's gone inspite of the entire situation.

There is no solution at this time, so from time to time I blow off some steam on BG, but not often. When she first came back into his life (I think a year and 1/2 ago, an he's now   I was really worried about the negative effects she would have on him, the pain it would cause him, and the way he would act out on his siblings. I still worry very much about these things, but I have found a peace in my heart that allows me to feel comforted in knowing that the parenting, and time we spend with Adrian had a much stronger effect on him, and that for whatever bad he takes home from her, he always knows he is safe with us, and he knows we are consistent parents who are there to guide him and nurture him. Sure, he doesn't like that we discipline him, but he respects us for doing so, and typically agrees with an accepts the disciplinary actions we have to take.

Ranting again!!!

I got burnt really bad and am jib jabbering away. Been a couple of months since I've gone off about looney tunes. I suppose it's healthy to really look into the situation on occasion, rather than just joking about it all the time.

<blockquote><b>Quoting M walls:</b>" Ahh. Yeah that would be hard to prove she was abusing precription drugs. I'm sorry hopefully she will get tired of doing the parent thing & just disappear"</blockquote>




She probably won't. She has her parents who want him very badly, so instantaneous babysitter, along with the TV, and video games that are always on no restriction regardless of behavior, all night all day, whatever so she can sleep in until whatever hour.

If you aren't being a parent, there's no stress. Adrian is just along for a ride through crazy town with someone consumed with jealousy.
She ha always been a jealous and crazy mad woman. When she was briefly with my husband (all in all, off and on about two years total) she pulled crap like sending emails to him pretending she was his ex, trying to find out if he was cheating on her. Just crazy insecure stuff. I knew her back then and she was stalking her on the Internet! She had lingerie photos that she had memorized the links to of the ex that she Howe to everyone so she could talk about how gross he thought the ex was an how much hotter she was. It was completely psyche stuff. She would call her, follow her around, anything to tell herself she was better than her (when in reality he knew she wasnt, but couldn't grasp that it did not matter).

DH shows me the texts she sends. Hell, I can look them over anytime cause it goes to iCloud automatically. Any texts from her about parenting? No. Nothing but petty fights and name calling towards me, or attacks on my appearance. Silly thing is she lost her looks long ago, and me? I hate that to people who don't know me I may sound conceited, but I am very confident in myself, feel sexy, know my husband loves my sexy body, but more importantly I know my DH loves ME, my sexy mind, personality, whole package and so I don't have to STALK her to convince myself of these things.

Yes, dH an I have both looked into her Facebook and forum accounts that she made public in her real name to use in court, but other than that...

Her driving by our home, following us in our vehicles, and just knowing that she is (because she is a stalker by nature and has alway followed this course) estalking me, it's jealousy not parenting that has her here.

LOLz LOLz LoLz
As soon as she knew DH and I were married she started posting pics of him and her together (he had me friend her on facebook do we could document for court- we knew it was in the making long before she submitted paperwork for visitation) making crazy comments like "mine all mine" and showing up at my in-laws house all the time (an they fricken hate her, but at my DHS pressuring allowed her in to get the skinny on things).

Crazy doesn't follow a rational pattern. She's here until she gets caught or drag herself under again. Or maybe like you say, she will eventually get tired of the situation. Until then, I think the only thing that drives her, besides need for drugs, is the intense jealousy.