HONEST opinions!

I'll say it again, I need HONEST answers of what you would ACTUALLY do, not just what the normal, sane person would do. IF you were in this situation what would you honestly and actually do?

If you break up with your SO of 5 years because you are not happy, he gets hurt and will literally move a few states away because he's hurt. You want him around to be a father to your son.

Do you stay for the sake of your son until he is old enough to understand WHY his father isn't there?

Do you leave him anyway and deal with the fact that he will tell your son it was your fault he's gone, and technically it is your fault because you didn't stick it out.

I would stay and try counselling.

I'd still leave the relationship if I wasn't happy. Him not being there is his own fault, and trying to make you feel bad about it is just childish. Him being a father should be his main concern.

I'd stay with him ... If I had to be honest ...

Leave anyway.
That's his choice to leave, so whatevs.

If he's not abusive or cheating ... I would try to work it out if you haven't already in the past.

Are you miserable?

No, that'd honestly push me to want to leave more. I don't handle people trying to manipulate me well, especially if they're dragging my kid in to it.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" I would stay and try counselling."

  If counseling didn't work i'd probably just stay miserable.

If we had a good relationship and I just wasn't "in love" I'd stay. If we were fighting for any reason or he was any kind of immature (which he would have to be to move away from his child and be that selfish) I'd still leave. I would want my son to have a father who wanted him above all else. Not who only wanted him if he could have me too. He wouldn't deserve DS!

Quoting FriendsOffBitch:" Are you miserable? "

Yes...but my kid is not. How the hell do you handle a 4 year old asking for their daddy? I am literally tearing up thinking about the possibility of having to do that.

First I would attempt counselling and then if that didn't work I would leave. I don't believe in teaching my kids that relationships are meant to be miserable for the sake of the child. If he really wanted to be a part he would find a way to stay and not just ditch out. That would be his choice not mine.

If my child's father would be willing to walk out of their life because they are 'hurt', I would lose any ounce of respect I ever may have had for him & make me wanna walk away more. If he is gonna walk away from his child over that, what else would make him walk away? No excuse for that.

He's not moving anywhere. He's manipulating you. He thinks you'll stay out of desperation or guilt if he says he's going to move.

You stay in relationships because you're happy, not because someone guilts you into staying.

If he moves 5 states away, that's his fault. Not yours because you left him.

You need to stop letting him mind smurf you.

It depends how bad things are really, but I would like to think that SO would stay around for the sake of his child before staying around for a relationship. you shouldn't have to be in a relationship for him to be a father, he should do it because he wants to.
If there was a possibility of being happy again, maybe counselling, but ifi really felt that all hope is lost, I would leave.