Tubal Ligation!?!?!

This is something I'm seriously considering. I'm 22, pregnant with my 3rd Child (3girls), and I honestly don't want any more kids. My bf wants another one later on down the line but I feel like its not fair. My other two daughters are not his and this will be his first child. I know it's not his fault that I have 2 kids already but I shouldn't be forced into having a 4th child if I don't want to. Idk. Have any of you ladies had this done or know anyone who has? Do you/they regret this decision? Or happy you did it?

I just made an appointment to talk about it with my GYN,

<blockquote><b>Quoting Captain Obvious:</b>" I just made an appointment to talk about it with my GYN,"</blockquote>




I've talked about it with my dr too. I really wanna do it.

I haven't an probably never will even if I decide I don't want any more kids. But I don't think it is fair your SO shouldn't get another kid if he really wants one and you don't. If you both feel really strongly about this issue then you probably shouldn't be together.

I jus had my third child 6 weeks ago and I am 25. I had my tubes tied and I don't regret it at all! I am very glad I had it done because I know I don't want/need anymore kiddos!

It's not fair to me either if I'm having a baby I don't want to have. And maybe we shouldn't be together if we can't compromise. We haven't really talked about it anyways.

I am 21 and would love to after another pregnancy.

But I know SO would make me regret it and he is in on this too.

I think I would like to wait a couple years after our last child is born to be for sure though. I wouldn't want to regret it or anything, then again if we ever have the funds for more kids adoption is always an option. SO said he couldn't adopt, who the smurf knows why.

You never know if he will change his mind after he has one kid of his own, sometimes people think they want more then once they have one of their own they decide against it. At least that's from people I've watched go through similar situations.

Quoting TeamPink ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Captain Obvious:</b>" I just made an appointment to talk about ... [snip!] ... an appointment to talk about it with my GYN,"</blockquote> I've talked about it with my dr too. I really wanna do it."

I am hoping my doctor is as enthused about it as I am. I am so tired of hormonal BC.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Ashley♥:</b>" I jus had my third child 6 weeks ago and I am 25. I had my tubes tied and I don't regret it at all! I am very glad I had it done because I know I don't want/need anymore kiddos!"</blockquote>




  yea I think 3 in PLENTY for me. Especially with my lack of patience lol. My mom had it done after her 4th and she wished she hadn't got it done but she would've had 7 or 8 kids by now. I just can't see myself with more than 3 and don't want to either.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jenna1234:</b>" You never know if he will change his mind after he has one kid of his own, sometimes people think they ... [snip!] ... once they have one of their own they decide against it. At least that's from people I've watched go through similar situations."</blockquote>




I agree!

<blockquote><b>Quoting TeamPink ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Ashley♥:</b>" I jus had my third child 6 weeks ... [snip!] ... hadn't got it done but she would've had 7 or 8 kids by now. I just can't see myself with more than 3 and don't want to either."</blockquote>

Lol everyone keeps saying I will regret it later down the road but I really don't think I will! Im basically a single parent and three kids are plenty for me! I really can't see myself with any more.

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" I haven't an probably never will even if I decide I don't want any more kids. But I don't think it is ... [snip!] ... he really wants one and you don't. If you both feel really strongly about this issue then you probably shouldn't be together."

 

I don't think it's fair to either of you really. It's something that should have been talked about but obviously what's done is done and now you are connected by your unborn child so time to figure it out right? (shoulda coulda woulda!) I would go with a good long term BC, you could have a change of heart. Who knows really, maybe he will end up not wanting another one later. Do what you want though, if he decides he wants more children then it will be up to him whether or not he wants to leave your relationship to start another family elsewhere. You SHOULD NOT do something you do not want to do, especially since it could lead to you resenting that child and him. (if you were to have another one to satisfy him) Good luck mama!!

Quoting TeamPink ♥:" It's not fair to me either if I'm having a baby I don't want to have. And maybe we shouldn't be together if we can't compromise. We haven't really talked about it anyways."

Agreed. Just like if you wanted a kid but your SO didn't... same thing. i think you shouldn't be forced for another kid if you don't want one.