Girl on fire :/

Working 40+ hours, putting dinner on the table, house is clean. Kid is happy, soon to be hubby is happy. We are getting along, everything is great... sex life blows. Even now that all the stress is gone we still aren't up to par with our sex life. He even said this morning, trying for another baby naturally won't hurt until we can afford to see DR's again, but then when I initiated NOTHING. Grrrr... I have tried blowing him, lingerie, I feel like I do everything possible and nothing. He isn't cheating, not masturbating either which is weird. I would know because we share a comp and we both use the same porn site and nothing new is in the history. He never goes out, and we share phones so no weird messages. Is their something I could do? Please help'

Sounds like you guys need to sit down and have a converstation.

Maybe he feels kind of weird since you're the "provider" and the homemaker? I know DH had some issues with me working all the time. It seems silly but some men feel "not man enough" and the sex life is the most impacted.

enever thought about it that way. Maybe he feels like I do too much? I mean he just got an awesome job offer he just hasn't started yet so I am mainly the provider right now. I guess I thought me accomplishing so much was good for us and for him. Hmmm.

Quoting BoogsMaMa:" enever thought about it that way. Maybe he feels like I do too much? I mean he just got an awesome job ... [snip!] ... yet so I am mainly the provider right now. I guess I thought me accomplishing so much was good for us and for him. Hmmm."

It is - absolutely. But it's probably one of those guy mental things. Once he starts the job and your sex life improves you'll know if that was it or not.