Quoting Destiel:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Blah:</b>" My SO and I have been together and engaged for ages. ... [snip!] ... is a house husband. I suppose I just feel like marriage is a loss of identity... Which Is a ridiculously old fashioned notion."
Well it seems like your basically married anyway ... besides changing your name and stuff. I mean you have been together for so long, overcome a lot, have a house, kid and another on the way. So if it were going to happen you would have "lost your identity" already if that makes sense. I don't think making it official would change anything in that way.
I'm with you on the changing your name thing, i'm not looking forward to that lol.