Thank you!

Thank you!

Unless she is suicidal, I really don't see the big deal with cutting. It's just like smoking and not even as harmful. It's a stress reliever.

Quoting bbbt:" Unless she is suicidal, I really don't see the big deal with cutting. It's just like smoking and not even as harmful. It's a stress reliever. "

And I know my opinion will vary greatly from most, but... *shrug*

Quoting bbbt:" Unless she is suicidal, I really don't see the big deal with cutting. It's just like smoking and not even as harmful. It's a stress reliever. "

She was rushed 2 hours away to specialist because she was a risk.. about a month ago.. her meds were upped but its not helping..

If medicine isn't doing anything, my guess is that her "depression" is situation. Something/someone is actually causing it. Whether it's her friends, a guy, something that happened that she's not telling anyone about, etc. A therapist and weekly sessions would probably do her more good than medicating her.

You need to not assume anything. Don't assume she's not a virgin. If people in school are calling her a slut, ask her why. If she's sleeping around, figure out why she feels like she needs to do that. If she's not, figure out who these kids are that are bullying your cousin and contact her school, find ways to contact their parents, etc.

You have to find what the actual problem is. Medicating is not the answer in this situation, it seems.

I would absolutely set her up with a teen counselor for weekly visits IMMEDIATELY though.

Quoting Baking Colt or Elodie:" She was rushed 2 hours away to specialist because she was a risk.. about a month ago.. her meds were upped but its not helping.."

When she cuts is she trying to kill herself?

Quoting bbbt:" Unless she is suicidal, I really don't see the big deal with cutting. It's just like smoking and not even as harmful. It's a stress reliever. "

Scarring yourself and bringing physical pain to yourself should never been viewed as and okay way to cope with your life problems.

Quoting Red Bottom:" If medicine isn't doing anything, my guess is that her "depression" is situation. Something/someone is ... [snip!] ... answer in this situation, it seems. I would absolutely set her up with a teen counselor for weekly visits IMMEDIATELY though."

This has been going on for a few years.. she has been going for weekly counciling sessions for the past year, and has only been on medication for the last few months. Nothing seems to be helping her.. she seems to be pretty open with me, she told me that she wanted to sleep with her last boyfriend but that they broke up before it happened.. I dont know, I guess like you said I shouldn't assume.

Try talking to her about what is going on, what is causing her to cut. I've gone through depression and cutting before. I found that having someone that I could talk to and trust was the most helpful.

Quoting Baking Colt or Elodie:" This has been going on for a few years.. she has been going for weekly counciling sessions for the past ... [snip!] ... with her last boyfriend but that they broke up before it happened.. I dont know, I guess like you said I shouldn't assume."

Have you thoughts about putting her in a teen support group? It might be easier for her to talk to people around her age srtuggling with the same problems.

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" And I know my opinion will vary greatly from most, but... *shrug* "</blockquote>




I agree.

I used to cut when I was in grade school. I wasnt depressed or stressed. I just really liked the feeling of it. I didnt think anything about it at the time bit now it makes me think wtf was wrong with me

Quoting bbbt:" When she cuts is she trying to kill herself? "

No, but it doesn't mean that she wouldnt. I dont see anything harmless about her cutting herself.. and im not going to overlook it like everyone else she's told

Quoting Red Bottom:" Scarring yourself and bringing physical pain to yourself should never been viewed as and okay way to cope with your life problems. "

Well for the sake of the argument, smoking scars your lungs.

Look, I'm not saying it's advisable to cut yourself to relieve stress, all I'm saying is that it doesn't necessarily mean someone is suicidal or needs some whole family intervention. Clearly that's not the case for who OP is talking about, but I used to cut myself as a teenager and I was NOT trying to kill myself- it was just something that helped calm me down after a long day.

Quoting Red Bottom:" If medicine isn't doing anything, my guess is that her "depression" is situation. Something/someone is ... [snip!] ... answer in this situation, it seems. I would absolutely set her up with a teen counselor for weekly visits IMMEDIATELY though."

I agree with all of this  

Quoting Baking Colt or Elodie:" I need help with how to deal with this.. My 15 year old cousin is in a situation where she feels like ... [snip!] ... all she says is it's the only way to relieve pain because she's tired of crying.. I need help   should we go to the school??"

my niece was the same..

and honestly the best thing that worked for her was beeing sent to an achievement program. not a mental house but a house for troubled kids from 5-17. here the link to where she went
http://www.meridell.com/

i would honestly talk to her parents about looking into a program before it progresses :/