Quoting bbbt:" When she cuts is she trying to kill herself? "
I wouldn't think so, just from what I read. I used to cut myself for years...I now am ashamed I ever did. But it was all I could do to calm myself, and deal with the pain, or taking anger out. The only way to know if she really is having thoughts about suicide is asking her. Plus if she is cutting from side to side most of the time it's a no, but if she is cutting down the middle trying to hit a vein that may be a yes.
OP I was 12 the first time I thought about it. I was 13 when I finally did cut myself. I went for 4 years...and finally one day I realized it wasn't the best thing for me. It was my reliever for years, and I was in DSS custody, and they threatened if I didn't stopped I would be headed straight for a psych ward, but I didn't care. I was so miserable and unhappy and the only way to make it "better" or so I thought, at the time was the cut myself and see the blood. It was the only thing I could do to know I wasn't imagining how unhappy I was. I never was medicated, so therefore meds may not even be the answer. You are doing the right thing somewhat as far as letting her know you will always be there for her. Support is one thing a lot of kids who cut themselves are lacking. Support and be there for her as much as you can. Spend time with her as much as you can (when you are able to take time away from life to do so), and find out what is going on. Let her know it's okay to find new friends, (that was part of my problem was I didn't have support and I was around the wrong group of friends. Don't go to the school right now or at least I wouldn't. If they had done that to me I would have been pissed that I felt like I could trust them and then they betrayed me. That is just my opinion. Then well, really look for the root of the problem and figure out what is going on. I know some don't understand what it is that makes a child want to cut themselves, and unless you've done it, or had that problem I don't feel like a person will truly understand. I know it hurts knowing she is doing it, but the first step is being there for her, and you are doing that. Oh and keep letting her know she is beautiful
and remind her that later on in life those scars will always be there (if she cut deep enough to have scars, I myself only have a few because I tried to cut deep enough for them to bleed but light enough so it would heal fast so I wouldn't get caught. Is there any certain thing you know of that could be causing this specifically?