Getting weird about feelings

So I've been hanging out with this guy. We agreed to just see where things went. He's always worried about me getting feelings, and always bringing up "I can't give you more" yada yada.
I'm not asking for more.
Every time something happens things get weird.
Cuddling-weird
Kissing-weird
Sex-weird

Then things even out and we pick back up where we left off.
Last night the sex was like....3 minutes.
I can't help it that I have an awesome vagina and the last sex he had sucked, but damn.

Now he's acting weird, but like in a not saying no to sleeping over way.

I don't know.

WHAT THE SmUrf ARE UP WITH PEOPLE AND THEIR FEELINGS?!
I don't get it.

He sees you as a vagina. That is it.

No man would let ANYTHING get in between him and the woman he wants.

You never give the vagina away until he sees you as his girlfriend. Otherwise you risk him seeing you as free milk....no sense in buying a cow.

If he's acting weird now. Maybe all he wanted was sex.

Quoting Red Bottom:" He sees you as a vagina. That is it. No man would let ANYTHING get in between him and the woman he ... [snip!] ... vagina away until he sees you as his girlfriend. Otherwise you risk him seeing you as free milk....no sense in buying a cow. "

I knew there were going to be no "feelings" I just got out of an almost 5 year relationship. I don't want feelings, they're stupid. I want someone to cuddle, kiss, have sex with, laugh, and eat bread pudding.

Quoting ~a girl and a boy~:" If he's acting weird now. Maybe all he wanted was sex. "

He acts weird all the time. He waved after we cuddled. Who waves after we spent 3 hours in my bed together? All I wanted was sex, so that's no issue

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I knew there were going to be no "feelings" I just got out of an almost 5 year relationship. I don't ... [snip!] ... I don't want feelings, they're stupid. I want someone to cuddle, kiss, have sex with, laugh, and eat bread pudding. "

That's a boyfriend. Generally you cuddle and kiss with your partner....not someone who you share "no feelings" with.

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" He acts weird all the time. He waved after we cuddled. Who waves after we spent 3 hours in my bed together? All I wanted was sex, so that's no issue"

You're reading into everything he does and says, and every behavior he has. You have feelings, and those are the issue.

Quoting Red Bottom:" That's a boyfriend. Generally you cuddle and kiss with your partner....not someone who you share "no feelings" with. "

Not a boyfriend. We have fun, and I'm an affectionate person

Quoting Red Bottom:" You're reading into everything he does and says, and every behavior he has. You have feelings, and those are the issue. "

He makes me read into it when he brings smurf up all the time! I don't have feelings. For him that is.

Quoting Red Bottom:" That's a boyfriend. Generally you cuddle and kiss with your partner....not someone who you share "no feelings" with. "

 

Kissing and cuddling are intimate. Those aren't normal things for two people who have no feelings. If you want that you need to find a boyfriend.

Sounds to me like he feels you want more and is pushing back from you.

Quoting Nicola =):"   Kissing and cuddling are intimate. Those aren't normal things for two people who have no feelings. ... [snip!] ... If you want that you need to find a boyfriend. Sounds to me like he feels you want more and is pushing back from you."

I don't want a boyfriend. Relationships lead to what I've been feeling for the last month and I don't want that.
I told him I don't want more, and it's true. He's the one that keeps saying he's scared and yada yada. I'm not scared, I just want to have fun. We have fun together, and I like to cuddle. I cuddle with a friend that's a girl, does that mean she's my girlfriend?

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I don't want a boyfriend. Relationships lead to what I've been feeling for the last month and I don't ... [snip!] ... have fun. We have fun together, and I like to cuddle. I cuddle with a friend that's a girl, does that mean she's my girlfriend?"

No, I am not saying everyone you cuddle with is a boyfriend or girl friend. I am pointing out they are intimate acts. I was saying it sounds to me like he is taking your actions, of wanting to cuddle and kiss, as wanting more.

Not saying you do want more but seems like he is taking it that way. Just because you like to kiss and cuddle with no feelings doesn't mean he is comfortable with it.

Quoting Nicola =):" No, I am not saying everyone you cuddle with is a boyfriend or girl friend. I am pointing out they are ... [snip!] ... he is taking it that way. Just because you like to kiss and cuddle with no feelings doesn't mean he is comfortable with it."

He's the one that started it. We were just having a sleepover cause it was late and all of a sudden he was spooning me. Then the kissing happened because he did the 2/3's thing all night, and then he wouldn't stop kissing me

Until you're ready to be honest with yourself, no one can tell you anything. It won't matter.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Until you're ready to be honest with yourself, no one can tell you anything. It won't matter. "

Honestly, I just got out of a really smurffy relationship where we were together for almost 5 years, and we had smurf times. There's a restraining order so I can't talk to him, and I'm having a hard time figuring out my feelings.
This other guy I've known for years, at first I figured I wouldn't mind dating him and had a little school girl crush. We had sex, and I don't want more than that. I like cuddling and kissing, I'm an intimate person. There's no romancey feelings with D.