Would this be a solution?

My fiance & I have been together for 2 years, the first year we were together he was going through bad depression and he cheated a couple times. He had a lot of 'mommy' issues due to his parents divorcing twice. He worked through that and hasn't had sex with anyone else but me. Last year we had our son but a few months before that he had been going on craigslist and had been cyber sexting over his yahoo I'M. No pictures were found. He had these girls describing sex scenes to him like a raunchy romance novel. He never gave them his personal info, name or tried to meet them anywhere. He was using wifi from a fast food place to read these. I found them recently. I confronted him and he apologized. He also cried and begged me not to leave him. I told him I wouldn't leave him but that it would not happen again or I would. A solution we both have been using is we have been more open with eachother which has helped me trust him more but I want his facebook password for peace of mind. Is that a viable solution to gain more trust? I haven't asked him yet. Also I'm going to talk to him about couples counselling TIA

Quoting BG Secrets:" My fiance & I have been together for 2 years, the first year we were together he was going through bad ... [snip!] ... that a viable solution to gain more trust? I haven't asked him yet. Also I'm going to talk to him about couples counselling TIA"

once a chaeter always a cheater. Do you really want to be with someone who you can't trust at all??

I don't think it will be a solution. He sounds like someone that might just always cheat. I think having access to his accounts will only make him take more drastic measures to keep these things private.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Noah&Presley'sMommy*:</b>" once a chaeter always a cheater. Do you really want to be with someone who you can't trust at all??"</blockquote>




Not true. Not once a cheater always a cheater.

But OP he's ways obviously hasn't changed much. Do you think it'd be best to cut ties, and find someone you can trust?

It's sounds like a start of a controlling relationship, not a solution.
You need to learn to trust him, not keep tabs on him. Stick with couples counseling and don't ask for his password.

I'm going through something similar   I can't work & have an 11 week old to take care of. SO does everything to take care of us because he has the job. I have faith that things can work if you both really try. I'm considering counselling myself

Honestly this is only the times youve caught him...how do you know that he hasnt done more than that.

They always "cry and beg you not to leave", sometimes they are truely sorry, but most of the time they are just sorry they got caught. I think you should be able to have his facebook password, at this point, he shouldn't be trusted at all, when you trust him, let him change his password again.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Summer+[two]:</b>" Honestly this is only the times youve caught him...how do you know that he hasnt done more than that."</blockquote>

If he's anything like my SO he doesn't delete smurf LOL

Quoting *Noah&Presley'sMommy*:" once a chaeter always a cheater. Do you really want to be with someone who you can't trust at all??"

I cheated on a boyfriend in high school, does that mean I am deemed to be a cheater in my marriage? No. That is ridiculous.

OP, being able to snoop through his things is not going to make you trust him again. I understand you want his PW for peace of mind but its not a solution. You two should look into counseling so you can learn how to properly rebuild trust.

It doesnt sound like your OH has cheated, you say hes never asked to meet anyone hes just chatting online albeit in a way i wouldnt be comfortable with but i dont know its taht different to reading/watching porn? I personally think everyone deserves a second chance. I dont think having his FB password will help you trust him trust is truly blind faith you cant trust someone if you dont give them the chance to earn that trust,i dont know if thats ocming across wrongly butim V tired, I would talk to him, ask him why he did it but if he promised he wouldnt do it again has he given you any reason to doubt that?