My marriage....lneed advice *Update, I talked to him

I've been married for 2 and a half years, I've been with him for almost 5, he's the first guy I ever slept with, and now I'm having doubts about still wanting to be with him, its just a sum of a lot of things that have been going on, he has a very slow sex drive and mine's high, and I hate being 24 years old and having the life of a 40 year old, he never wanted to go out with my friends cause he's 11 years older then me, but we went out with his friends and that was good enough for me since Im nota party animal either, but now he's always stressed out and tired, and he blames me for problems going on at work (I work with him) and I hate that we work together I've wanted to quit and find something independent but he says I shouldn't do that cause working with him allows me to be with the baby but then he doesn't respect the work I do, which makes me slack off because of lack of encouragement (he's fast to critize and slow to say anything good). He tells me I could never handle my life without him, and it makes me want to leave his ass just to prove that I can. He never helps with the baby, and I mean never, shes 6 months old and hasn't changed one freaking diaper, never has bathed her or gotten upfor the middle of the night feedings, he went on a 1 month business trip when sofia was one month oldbecause he couldn't handle her crying...... Now he left for a 2 week business trip and everytime I talk to him on the phone we have a fight....I think I don't even miss him this time.....he has a lot of good things, but I just can't seem to be able to see them right now, I don't know what to do...

  I feel for you, I really do! But the only one that's going to be able to decide what to do here is you hun. If you're not happy then you need to tell him that, you need to tell him that you're seriously thinking about leaving. Maybe see what he says?

Good luck sweetie!!

He couldnt handle her crying so he went on a business trip? what an asshole,sorry I dont know what to tell you besides that.

I'm sorry you are going thru this.. but maybe you guys need some time apart to see where you guys stand. There is no point in staying in a loveless relationship.. its only bound to get worse.

Good luck

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/isdivorcethesolution/tp/timefordivorce.htm
Those are really good questions to ask yourself.

Quoting Monica♥sMcKenzie:“ http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/isdivorcethesolution/tp/timefordivorce.htm Those are really good questions to ask yourself.”

That is a great link!

i feel for you sweetie! You need to do whatever you have to do to make sure that you are happy. That's what's really important. You being happy and making sure that baby is taken care of! Good luck!

Quoting Mommyprix:“ I've been married for 2 and a half years, I've been with him for almost 5, he's the first guy I ever ... [snip!] ... this time.....he has a lot of good things, but I just can't seem to be able to see them right now, I don't know what to do...”

It's all up to u hun. Ultimately u'll have to decide on this one. Personally I think u shouldn't throw in the towel just yet. Try counseling first, incase that doesn't work then u can say "Screw it i tried !"

Good Luck Sweetie !!!

wow, thanks for the link, thanks for all the comments as well, it's just so hard, its been such a long and exhausting day, he has no idea about all the things that are going through my head, but I just keep re-running every issue that we had, and each thing that I've put up with these 5 years and I just feel the need to start over while I'm still young I think that the issues pretty much lie in our core values, and how different we are, I can't expect him to change and I know that so that makes me feel like we have no future in the long run, giving and giving in a relationship without receiving anything in return just can't work forever....this makes me sad, cause I know what I should do but it scares the crap out of me

I talked to him yesterday, I told him everything I'm feeling and he told me that I'm his life and if things need to change, he's willing to do it because he loves me and wants to grow old with me, we are going to find a marriage counselor to try and fix all of it, I told him I'm giving us one more chance, but if things don't really get better Im leaving him, I told him I need to feel in love again, that he is losing me because of his attitude, I really hope we can work things out...

Quoting Mommyprix:“ I've been married for 2 and a half years, I've been with him for almost 5, he's the first guy I ever ... [snip!] ... this time.....he has a lot of good things, but I just can't seem to be able to see them right now, I don't know what to do...”

Wow... I hope you read the posting "A letter I wrote to him" .... I feel you. Sometimes guys take you for granted and as soon as you leave them they start crying and saying how much they love you.

I really hope that things work out for you guys! Good luck in the future! Good job on standing up for yourself

Quoting Mommyprix:“ I talked to him yesterday, I told him everything I'm feeling and he told me that I'm his life and if ... [snip!] ... I told him I need to feel in love again, that he is losing me because of his attitude, I really hope we can work things out...”

  Good luck hun!! I hope it all works out! Way to stand up for yourself, and I'm glad he's willing to work on it with you.