Quoting amor♥:" I do help straighten up when I get home from work..I just wouldnt be able to help through the day ... [snip!] ... a list of things to talk about just to cover anyways...that way if we both say it doesnt matter then we have that to go off..."
Hopefully you both do that. My best friend worked outside and got dirty a lot. He would come home and as soon as he came in the door, he would ALWAYS walk through the living room with his boots on leaving dirt everywhere and throw all his work stuff all over the floor in the dining room. We always brought it up and he kept saying he'd stop and he just wouldn't. It's frustrating to live in a place that you want to stay clean and the other person just isn't concerned about it. So I always ended up cleaning up after him or I'd have to live in a pig pen. Also, we would buy most of the food in the house, and NEVER said anything about them eating it. We always shared what we had. Then ONE time I ate a breakfast meal he had bought (and he had like 4 or 5 of them) and he made this big huge deal about it.
The biggest fight we ever had was about us waking his GF up one morning at 9 because we were having an argument. Well, DH worked and THEY would often stay up until 3 or 4 arguing loudly, this happened a lot. We never complained and we stayed out of it because it wasn't our business. Then one morning at 9:30, DH and I were in an argument in the living room and his GF comes out like "Ya'll need to STFU we're trying to sleep and ya'll are in here being all loud, either shut up or get out" Lol. DH went OFF on her and put her in her place about it. She's was being so dumb about it too acting like she would kick us out because our names weren't on the lease and we had just paid her rent. But we knew our rights and told her she couldn't make us do anything unless she wanted to pay to evict us.