Self-sabotaging? *vent*

I dont have many friends. In fact, I only have one (who I met on here).   Anyways, Ive been trying to put myself out there in order to create a little circle of friends. Im extremely shy, so Im not good with meeting people in person. There are two moms that I want to meet (not on this site) and we have a dinner set up for tonight. Yesterday I was soooo excited! But today I dont want to go. Im pretty sure I always seem to hold myself back from good things and I dont know why   These ladies seem pretty cool, our husbands have a lot in common, and our kids are all around the same age. so why not?? ugh, Im not going to be a flake but I am just so anxious about  

I don't really have any advice since Im the same exact way, I get so excited and then bam it's the day of and sometimes I even make excuses not to go or something.

It sounds to me like you already know what the problem is. You're scared of them not liking you, or it being awkward, etc, so you want to back out... I PROMISE if you go, you'll have a good time! Moms ALWAYS have stuff to talk about, even if you have NOTHING else in common, moms could talk about their kids forever! Don't let yourself back out or you'll be really disappointed. I used to be this way and I haaaated it. I don't really know when or why it stopped, but life is a lot better not being scared all the time.

im the same. i have lost alot of friends over the years through ex's and now i have maybe two friends who i barely see. i think my problem is that i try too hard. it always seems to be me that texts, phones others. i need to lear to back off. i also want to make new friends. pretty much everyone on here is from america though  . my advice to you is just go out and have fun. if you dont you will only end up thinking 'what if?'

I have pretty bad social anxiety so I tend to do the same thing. Thankfully is hav a handful of really good girlfriends from college who I am still in contact with. And my husband has a lot of friends in our town because he grew up here so that's made it easier for me to make friends.