How does it work out for you, if you do it?
How do you divide bills, chores, etc?
Are you living in the same building with separate living spaces or sharing a kitchen/bathroom?
Is this ideal for you or no?
As a child of your parents, do you feel they treat you like a child?
My husband and I lived with his parents for three years. It's a large house, almost 5,000 sq/ft, but it wasn't separate living spaces. We all used the same kitchen, bathrooms, library, tv room, etc..
They didn't treat us like children for the most part, except dh's mom would never back me up when I asked him to help with our share of household chores and she would cater to him as far as cooking and such. We lived like you would in a family, just clean up after yourselves and keep your spaces clean. It was never an issue. It was a really great experience actually, I love my inlaws and they never overstepped as far as patenting our child. It was very clear that we were the parents and they were the grandparents.
I loved living with them but the plan was always to live with them WHILE we saved for our own home and after three years we were able to buy our own. We ended up buying a house right down the road From them, about a mile i think. I'm really grateful for their help and I actually miss living with them sometimes.
In my case it wasn't ideal and if I could go back I'd of never done it. My parents seemed to enjoy invading in my marriage, parenting, and anything else they could intervene in. We were to split the bills but later found out they were taking advantage of us by causally asking for $100+ what seemed like here and there. Usually when we were seperate or in a rush somewhere. It was found out when dh and I were going over our finances and discovered that my mother had gotten about $300 in a week ( several times) for gas money this was on top of regular bills. I enedrd up being the only one that cleaned. It was awful. They opened out mail, went through or stuff....Omg.
Oh this was back when I only had two kids and it was shared space ( kitchen bathrooms, etc.)
Not everyones experience is this way mines was just a bad one.
We live with my parents now in a 4 bedroom trailer we share space and its working for now. It helps having my mom to watch dd while me and dh are at work. My mom doesnt work so she does the main house keeping. As long as we pick up after our selves and dd thats all she ask from us but I do help out with the cleaning. We also pay rent and buy anything we need. My parents do not interfere with our parenting techniques or our relationship .