How to make him "miss you"...

So me and SO had a little argument last night. For 2 weeks now he's been acting kinda distant... I know he's super stressed with work and his ex baby mama (it's nothing really he or she is doing wrong at all.. I just don't feel like explaining it.) Anyway, with him being distant and all, him showing me emotions like he normally would is slim to none. Well, I run off emotions. Most women do. When I don't feel loved by him I get all sad/depressed/mad acting... and that doesn't help our relationship at all. Anyway, so this morning when he left for work, he texted me right after and said "I do love you." When we were fussing last night he said he's so stressed right now and all I was doing was adding more stress with fussing with him and he wanted some away time from me. I honestly don't feel like we have enough time together. We barely ever have straight up alone time together and do anything without the kids. Don't get me wrong I love the kids... but I feel we lack in actual "adult time" and no, to me... just night time, laying in bed does NOT count all that much. But anyway, that's besides the point. I'm just kinda thinking I'm going to go MIA all day long, no texting, no calling.. just give him what he wants.. "away time" from me. Do you do that sometimes with your SO.. how does he act when he does finally see you?

I know it's cliche but Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Sometimes people just need time com

pissed off. He never enjoys when I ignore him.

Quoting Dude, you Fugly!:" So me and SO had a little argument last night. For 2 weeks now he's been acting kinda distant... I know ... [snip!] ... him what he wants.. "away time" from me. Do you do that sometimes with your SO.. how does he act when he does finally see you? "

Not really but I do try to, once a year, take a mini vacation on my own (if someone has the kids) or with them.

In 2008, I took a trip to visit my family in SC for a week and left my husband at home, for example. Next weekend, my parents are taking the older 3 kids and I'm taking the youngest and going to meet up with a friend which leaves him on his own for the day.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A is Me:</b>" I know it's cliche but Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes people just need time com"</blockquote>




Completely alone. I think it would be good for him and YOU. Give yourself the freedom to go all day without calling or texting. It will help put your relationship into perspective if you have time to think.

Sounds like your so wasn't being rude at all. I don't know him but sounds like he sincerely needs what he asked for.

Although a break from talking while he's away at work is not much of a "break" or time away, it might be all you guys need. To both have that free time during the day.

Quoting A is Me:" I know it's cliche but Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes people just need time com"

I think that's what I'm going to do all weekend, even though I know it's going to kill me because I love being stuck up his ass LOL. But, I know it's for the best... and if he really loves me like he says he does then I know me being away from him for awhile is going to kill him and maybe it'll give him time to think about why I get so upset with him sometimes. I just don't want him to think I'm having second thoughts, or I'm going out doing something I shouldn't.

Quoting Dude, you Fugly!:" I think that's what I'm going to do all weekend, even though I know it's going to kill me because I ... [snip!] ... with him sometimes. I just don't want him to think I'm having second thoughts, or I'm going out doing something I shouldn't. "

I'd just tell him that since he's asked for a little space, you're taking the kids out for the day and you'll return before bed time. Take them to a museum and then out for dinner or something.

thats how my DH is, I used to be extremely clingy to him and texting him when ever possible. But i've got to the point were if he wants to talk he can text, call or come to me and it has actually made our relationship SOOO much better. He always tells me that the best thing I can do when he is upset is to just let him have his space for a little bit so he can calm down because when I'm constantly up his ass trying to make it better, i'm just making it worse. So yes I would agree with everyone else, give him his space and let him come to you!!

Quoting SAFFY™:" I'd just tell him that since he's asked for a little space, you're taking the kids out for the day and you'll return before bed time. Take them to a museum and then out for dinner or something."

We don't have any kids together. My 2 are with their grandparents this weekend... and I know his two boys will choose to do something with him, than me lol. So I'll be all alone this weekend, while he has his boys for company That's another thing, every weekend he has his boys, so even if I do go MIA... his mind is still pre-occupied and doesn't give him much of a time to think about anything and prob. not miss me too much.  

Quoting Dude, you Fugly!:" We don't have any kids together. My 2 are with their grandparents this weekend... and I know his two ... [snip!] ... his mind is still pre-occupied and doesn't give him much of a time to think about anything and prob. not miss me too much.   "

Ohh. I was going off your thingy at the bottom.

Do you have any girlfriends you could hang out with for the day? Or maybe talk to his boys and tell them that their dad needs some alone time and tempt them with a day trip somewhere?

Quoting SAFFY™:" Ohh. I was going off your thingy at the bottom. Do you have any girlfriends you could hang out with ... [snip!] ... the day? Or maybe talk to his boys and tell them that their dad needs some alone time and tempt them with a day trip somewhere?"

Yeah, I have a few friends I could call up and possibly do something with. Honestly though, I think I would enjoy the alone quiet time by myself. Nah, he would go ape smurf crazy if I took his boys for the day lol with no real reason. He is like super anal about wanting to be with his kids as much as possible. I don't think it's a bad thing. But that's where I told him we lack in our relationship. We never just go out and do something together, without the kids. He said he does NOT want to do anything without the kids, if he can help it. That he wants all our kids more. He hates the fact when my girls go to their dads/grandparents, because he wants that time with them during the weekend, because he doesn't get to spend enough time with them during the week because of school/work. I mean don't get me wrong I am so so so so grateful to have a man like that. But I really need some one on one, no kids allowed, alone time with him sometimes. I NEVER get a mental break from kids. If I don't have all 5 of the kids all the time, then I have at least 2-3 of them, NON-STOP!

Ain't nobody got time fo dat!


Lol sorry, it felt appropriate.. but seriously why play games..I've never felt like I needed time away from my husband and vice versa, when we have an issue with each other we work together on it. I personally think "space" resolves nothing

I think it's perfect. My DH told me that I cared too much about certain things and was annoyed. I decided I would give him space and not be as clingy I guess and be indifferent to certain things and I could tell he felt it was weird. Finally on the third day he said that he missed me being me and that he felt that I didn't love him and he needed me. We had other issues going on so that's why I acted indifferent but I think you just giving him space is just what you two need.