I'm seriously going crazy.

I need help. I do not know how much longer I can stand this!!!!

My daughter is 8 months old. She still wakes up for a bottle before morning time, but she doesn't need the bottle until around 5 AM. She has always woken up and whined a bit if she lost her paci, but I could always give it back to her and she would fall right back asleep. She has also spent at LEAST a couple hours in my bed pretty much every single night since she was born. At first this was just because she was a newborn and it was the only way I could get her to sleep. Then it easily became a habit and not to mention the easiest thing I could do because I was breastfeeding up until 6 months. Well, now my daughter not only wakes up and whines, she wakes up and screams. Sometimes she hasn't even lost her paci. I can try to patt her butt or rub her, or even rock her, and usually eventually get her to go back to sleep, but by the time I am back in my room laying down.. She has started again. This results in the only way that I am able to get her to stop and go back to sleep is to just bring her back to my bed. A few weeks ago she was doing good and I was getting her to stay in her bed all night long and I would give the bottle to her in her bed when it was time and she would fall right back asleep and never even have to get in my bed. But now all of a sudden it is extremely bad and there is no way I can even get her to stay in her bed long enough to have her bottle in there, because she wakes up so much before it's time for that. I'm sick of having to put her in my bed every single night and it's a BATTLE every night. It's causing me to barely get any sleep and it is becoming extremely frustrating. I don't know what to do... But I am assuming that my daughter is just waking up because she's used to being next to me during the night. Please help me!!!!!!

I couldn't break co sleeping until she was 3 and she would still wake up and come to our room. Now I don't mind her sleeping with us. One day she will think its not cool to sleep with us so I'm enjoying the cuddled while I can   but we did try CIO at a year old... Worked well within 3 days.

If you're frustrated about not sleeping and the only way the both of you sleep is to put her in your bed then do it.

DS still wakes up a few times at night, hes now 9 months he was bf till he was 7 months and used to sleep in my bed sometimes. i moved him into his own room and then put him in his cot at 7pm with a bottle, he will fall asleep drinking, then when he wakes up i get in there before hes full blown screaming and put a bottle in his mouth which he holds and falls back to sleep. try going in and putting the bottle in her mouth when shes stirring and not full on screaming if you can. my midwife told me anything you want to teach them usually takes 3-4 days of doing the exact same thing and then they get into a habit of doing it all the time. my only problem now is he really doesnt need formula all through the night he gets enough during the day, hes just in the habit of waking and getting a bottle now.

If you want sleep, your going to have to suck it up and co sleep. Or get over it and get used to her wakeing up.
That's really all there is to it.

maybe shes getting hungier at night now. is she hitting.a growth spirt or teething? Next time she wakes up before 5am try giving her a bottle.

I knew I was going to get the whole "if she wants to sleep with you, let her." dont get me wrong, I love sleeping next to her, but I do not want it to be an absolute every night thing that she is dependent on. Now that she is getting older and bigger, sleeping in my bed is not always pleasant. When she is in her bed, I can give her the bottle and she will drink it and go right back to sleep. When she is in my bed, she wakes up for a bottle and doesn't want to go back to sleep. And I'm not going to give her a bottle just to stop her crying because that would only create a bigger issue with problems that would be far more worse than her needing to be next to me. I need help on breaking her of this.

For those of you that are saying "deal with it and get over it", you sound a little ignorant. As if there is no way to break a baby of a habit like this. Not every family co sleeps and even families that do co sleep don't always do it forever and always.

For the person that asked about the growth spurt or teething, no teething but I'm not sure about the growth spurt. She recently started scooting and during the day has been drinking a few oz less because she gets distracted and will not want to finish her bottles. I'm afraid if I try to give her the bottle sooner it will only create more of a habit.

Quoting Mama to EC:" I need help. I do not know how much longer I can stand this!!!! My daughter is 8 months old. She still ... [snip!] ... I am assuming that my daughter is just waking up because she's used to being next to me during the night. Please help me!!!!!!"

omg this exact post could of came from me ,my son is 9 1/2 months and im in the EXACT same bout as you... if you find a answer let me no lol ,all i get from people is let him cio but that last thing i fancy is listening to him scream the house down all night i value the bit of sleep i do get plus im up with my dauighter for the school run   good luck...

<blockquote><b>Quoting babeno2:</b>" omg this exact post could of came from me ,my son is 9 1/2 months and im in the EXACT same bout as you... ... [snip!] ... the house down all night i value the bit of sleep i do get plus im up with my dauighter for the school run   good luck..."</blockquote>


Haha yeah I understand, I mean I would consider letting my daughter CIO but I can only let her cry for so long before she just becomes completely beside herself and that's also not the best method when it is 2 or 3 in the morning and two other people in your household are sleeping! I would like to find some solution to my problem though... I know it sucks and there are probably plenty of others that have been here, surely someone has to have a good piece of advice. Good luck to you too though, hang in there!

Quoting Mama to EC:" <blockquote><b>Quoting babeno2:</b>" omg this exact post could of came from me ,my ... [snip!] ... of others that have been here, surely someone has to have a good piece of advice. Good luck to you too though, hang in there!"

you 2  )

if it is a growth spurt or if she has started eating less like you mentioned she could just be getting hungry earlier than usual. It doesnt necessarily mean it will become a habit, if she needs more to eat or needs to eat sooner, then that is what she needs. Other than that you might just have to set a small little routine for when she wakes up early and then when she gets used to it make it smaller and smaller until you dont need it anymore and she falls back asleep on her own again.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Adan's Mama  :</b>" if it is a growth spurt or if she has started eating less like you mentioned she could just be getting ... [snip!] ... when she gets used to it make it smaller and smaller until you dont need it anymore and she falls back asleep on her own again."</blockquote>




Thank you. I might try that because I honestly didn't think about how she's been eating a little bit less during the day. Is it normal for them to do that when they become mobile? Her nights haven't always been this way so I've been telling myself it's either just another phase.. Or if not we've seriously formed a bad habit that is at it's peak right now lol

yeah its normal...she learned something new and is focusing on how fun and different it is  

my little one is 10 months old and she is breast fed still but her crib is still in our room which helps a lot for us. when she was about 5 months old she began sleeping through the night or only waking up once a night but here in the last month she has began waking anywhere from 3-8 times a night again! it is worse than it was when she was a newborn!! I also co sleep some but I prefer not to do it all the time or to make it where she feels she has to be in bed with me to sleep! what I myself do is, nurse her and let her falls asleep snuggled up to me. I make sure the lights are off and the fan is on and then when she has been asleep a little while I pick her up and put her in her bed and cover her up with her blanket and then lay down myself. Granted this is only keeping her asleep for usually 2-3 hours but I just keep repeating the process because I do not want her to sleep with me on a permanent basis. I know that some parents are ok with it and that is fine but it is hard for me to sleep with her in bed with me, I swear she is a baby octopus! lol