Completely being disrespected

Certain family members do not listen to me about my son, it's gotten to be a BIG issue for me and I don't know how to tell them how I feel without being a bitch. But here's the problem they are disrespecting my parenting decisions and it just plain pisses me off. It's little things: taking his paci and telling him he doesn't need it, it's for babies. This pisses me off because I told DH we will be taking it at age 2, he's 18 months currently and his pedi knows he still has it and she's not concerned. I don't like people taking it and then making a big show of it towards me saying he doesn't need it, etc. I know it's not a big deal but they do it right in front of me almost to shove it in my face.

Or they will watch him, not bring him back at the times they say they will, take him places where I have no idea where he's at (for me that's a big issue, because I'd like to know where my son is at all times), and give him things that I prefer he don't have. They have given him watered down pop, junk in place of dinner, etc.

I just feel completely disrespected. DH doesn't really understand it, I guess you could say I am over-protective but he is my baby. I don't ask much, it's not like I'm asking them to follow every single rule I have but 1. Let the kid have his paci. 2. Don't fill him up on a bunch of crap 3. Tell me where he's at and bring him home when you say you will. I really don't think that's too much. I get that grandparents will give sweets and treats as part of their spoiling. I'm not concerned about it once in a while but all the time is too much.

I guess I do need to let go...but advice? I've tried talking to them and they tell me they understand and it never changes. I've also tried not letting it get to me as much and I just can't.  

Watch your own kid and that won't happen.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" Watch your own kid and that won't happen."

Honestly I would rather watch my own kid. But DH wants to let people watch him instead of keeping him with me all the time. They think I am over-bearing and that I need to let him go and not keep him from seeing other people.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" Watch your own kid and that won't happen."

Sorry OP, but I agree ^. Sounds like you are a little overbearing and if it really bothers you, don't leave your child with people who don't follow your rules.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:</b>" Honestly I would rather watch my own kid. But DH wants to let people watch him instead of keeping him ... [snip!] ... him with me all the time. They think I am over-bearing and that I need to let him go and not keep him from seeing other people."</blockquote>




Tell your DH no. You gotta stand up for yourself, it doesn't make you a bitch, no one should walk all over you.

Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:" Sorry OP, but I agree ^. Sounds like you are a little overbearing and if it really bothers you, don't leave your child with people who don't follow your rules."

I understand I am a bit over-bearing. I'm trying to let that go, but it's difficult.

Out of all of that, the only thing that would slightly bother me is the giving sweets all the time, but then again I am sure that's not ALL they give.

The rest, is a bit too much.

Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:" Certain family members do not listen to me about my son, it's gotten to be a BIG issue for me and I don't ... [snip!] ... and they tell me they understand and it never changes. I've also tried not letting it get to me as much and I just can't.  "

my mum and step dad do the paci thing with DS and hes only 9 months it pisses me off and i tell them hes fine but i dont know what they do on the mondays when they have him all day, they dont take him out though unless its to the shops and they are good with his food, besides the fact they gave him a full icecream with a cone and everything which quite annoyed me as its his first try and a bit too much, they also gave him a biscuit then dropped it in sand then washed it and gave it back to him i told them not too, as they have dogs around and i just dont like the idea but they keep saying its fine im like no its not im his mother but they dont listen so iv just given up they wont change.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:</b>" Honestly I would rather watch my ... [snip!] ... Tell your DH no. You gotta stand up for yourself, it doesn't make you a bitch, no one should walk all over you."

Oh he doesn't walk all over me but he does think I need to let go a bit, I do agree that I need to let go a bit. It would be nice to get a break every once in awhile, I just want people to listen to me. I don't know how to tell people I want without seeming like I'm just being a straight up bitch. I feel like if I tried talking to them it would come out all wrong. I don't think that some of them are doing those things purposely to piss me off ya know?

Quoting ♥ axel sean n me:" my mum and step dad do the paci thing with DS and hes only 9 months it pisses me off and i tell them ... [snip!] ... idea but they keep saying its fine im like no its not im his mother but they dont listen so iv just given up they wont change."

Yeah I've gotten to that point a few times, it just makes me want to keep him with me all the time...but then I know he needs interaction with other people. It's just hard for me to let go...

Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:" Yeah I've gotten to that point a few times, it just makes me want to keep him with me all the time...but then I know he needs interaction with other people. It's just hard for me to let go..."

i would have DS all the time too but we needed more money so i went back to work casually so i had to let my mum have him mondays and the saturdays SO has him.

my parents used to be the same way and I finally just straight oit told them that I was his mother and what I say goes and if they have a problem with it then oh well. I know you dont want to come off as.a bitch but you cant be a push over either.

The paci he is plenty old enough to brake from, but he is ur baby not mine. They should respect ur wishes ur his mother not them. Im going thru the same thing kinda my sister always gives my 5 month old sweets and stuff I don't want her to I got pissed and I told her she isn't touching her until she can respect my wishes

You have EVERY right to be upset! You are his Mother and they ade disrespecting your role as his Mother. I would tell my husband that if he cannot get it through to them to start respecting your wishes then Peyton will not be allowed to be watched by anyone without you there. You are in no way being over bearing and honestly its smurfed up that your husband is making you let other people watch your child and useing THAT as a reason....I would be angry with everyone. Yeah my SO has made lil comments about me not wanting to let go but at the end of the day he would rather have me watch our son then anyone else.
No one can take care of your child better than you ( assuming your not overwhelmed/stress)....and yes he does need to spend time with his other family but he absolutely doesnt NEED to be watched by them if you are available and wanting too!