Court.. help?

So bd & i arent getting along at all. I live in Arizona supposivly a mother state. Well he filed in court & wants 4 days & i get 3 & everyother weekend! Thats bullsmurf. & now that hes being such a smurf i dont even want him having 3 days! Since Nov. we've been doing a 4 day 3day switch off but i just cant take it. I need my daughter more & she needs me. But he wont let me change it, says since he signed her birth certf that i have no rights over him?! He has a new gf shes already pregnant, hes back & forth with me.. one day he wants me the next he hates me. He doesnt even knw if tht baby is his!! So what im asking is, if i put in a response & say he can only have her 2 days a week & pay child supportt who will they favor? I just dont know what to do anymore :'( I really need help! </3
Sorry for grammar errors & such.. im angry ha
Oh & he smokes/smoked weed! Not sure if he still does he said he was going to drink tht stuff to clean his system out!

If he was granted that in court, then they won't change it unless you have a legit reason, like he's unfit.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" If he was granted that in court, then they won't change it unless you have a legit reason, like he's unfit. "</blockquote>




Neither of us have been granted anything. All we have is the papers of him writing what he wants, & i need to take in my response..

He thinks he can win full custody to!

Quoting Aria's Mommy&Daddy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" If he was granted that in court, then they ... [snip!] ... of us have been granted anything. All we have is the papers of him writing what he wants, & i need to take in my response.."

Then take in your response. If there is no order, then there is no need for you to give her to him. You have full custody until there is an ACTUAL order.

I'm just curious here, please take no offense. But if you've already had a schedule why change it because you're angry with him? Perhaps I didn't read/understand correctly, but I would be thankful that he wants to be in his child's life & encourage those visits..*shrug*

If the judge didn't sign anything off, take him to court ASAP. Technically you don't even have to let him take her that many days if it wasn't granted by the courts, tell him to smurf off.

Quoting Aria's Mommy&Daddy:" He thinks he can win full custody to!"

Unlikely.

Quoting Aria's Mommy&Daddy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" If he was granted that in court, then they ... [snip!] ... of us have been granted anything. All we have is the papers of him writing what he wants, & i need to take in my response.."

Okay here is no order, right? Then you can absolutely fight it. You can write in your response that you would prefer he only has her 2 days a week because of ____. They may or may not favor you because you don't have a specific reason with proof. But on the flip side he will not get full custody because he needs proof that YOU are unfit. Which I'm assuming you're not so don't worry about that.

If there are no court orders yet, you don't have to let him take your kid at all. He could take her and you couldn't do a thing about it until your court date.

... It's just a request of what he wants, he can want 24/7 custody ... doesn't mean he'll get it. Go and file your response with your wants, or requests, let the judge hear it out or agree to see a mediator regarding coming to a decision of sharing custody with one another. Just because that's what he wants, it doesn't mean anything at this point.

I let her go. with him because i feel guilty keeping her away from him. & Its not because im mad, maybe a little but he treats me like smurf & then wants me to be so sweet & nice to him. All i asked was that he. not bring the other girl to my house. My wounds are fresh & im still very upset that we arent together. Hes only with her bcuz of the baby. They werent together when she told him & and we were working things thru.. Then she got him to believe her and we argued and he ditched me again for her. I just dont think its right for my 6mo old to be away from me, you mommys know how i feel right? I never liked the schedule we had, but im scared of him.. Not like hed beat me up scared, but he knws how to talk himself out of things & knows how to argue. & i dont im quiet when it comes to him i dont have a voice to stand up for myself.. I just dont know there is so much going on & im becoming very depressed..

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" Then take in your response. If there is no order, then there is no need for you to give her to him. You have full custody until there is an ACTUAL order."</blockquote>




But why does he & his mom believe that since he signed her birth certf that that means i dont have full custody?

Quoting Aria's Mommy&Daddy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" Then take in your response. If there is no ... [snip!] ... But why does he & his mom believe that since he signed her birth certf that that means i dont have full custody?"

Because they want custody of her. You don't have to give your baby to them until there is an actual order. My first son's BD has always been on the BC but he never watched him/did anything for him until we had an order in place.

They both sound just like my BD and his mom - manipulative, and conniving, and emotionally abusive. Put your foot down.

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" Because they want custody of her. You don't have to give your baby to them until there is an actual ... [snip!] ... They both sound just like my BD and his mom - manipulative, and conniving, and emotionally abusive. Put your foot down."</blockquote>




They are all of those things. & Im still emotional, i love him & they just dont unmderstand that im hurting. But thank you much..