4 years ago I had my LO. I had a very extreme episiotomy. I was told about 40 stitches. Ever since then I feel like everything is all jacked up down there. Is it possible it never healed right? Sex HURTS. Badly and it never did before. Which is why I haven't done it in a while. But it's not just sex. I can't even do foreplay because it hurts also. It's not necessarily that it's too "tight" it just feels like so much pressure. Like my skin is not strong enough or something
I don't have any STDs and the only thing I can think of is that they botched it somehow. Am I the only one with this issue? It really upsets me.
I want to be normal
I didn't have near as many stitches as you, I had a mild-moderate tear upwards and now its like some of the upper wall of my vagina is just there rather than having like a circle all the way around as an opening. I can't say it hurts to have sex but I'm not as tight because of it and it can hurt if he's not careful as far as jabbing me with his fingers or penis if he slips and misses :p. Sorry you're having so much trouble with it, have you asked your gynecologist?
I had an episitomy with my first. The doctor that sewed me up wouldn't tell me how many stitches I had, she just said it was a lot. Sex was extremely painful for about a year or so afterwards and when I was looking it up online all I could find was stuff about scar tissue from an episiotomy making sex painful. It's still painful sometimes but nothing like it used to be. If it's still so painful after 4 years i'd talk to your doctor/gynecologist about it.