I NEED HELP!!! AM I RIGHT??

My husband and I are currently in an argument and I can't see him to see things from my point of view. Here's the story

I have a Honda... he has a Crown Vic. Since Mid November he has been driving MY CAR to work (3minutes from home) EVERY DAY! MY CAR has the car seats in it...so his car is USELESS to me... plus it's also EMPTY on GAS. I didn't mind it at first because it was cold out and I didnt want to get the kids out in the weather.

It's Feb. now and he is STILL driving it and the weather is decent and not to mention I'm getting cabin fever. I'd love to take my kids to see their Great Grandma who lives only 8 miles away.

This all started getting under my skin when about 3 weeks ago my oldest was sick and had a fever. I wanted to take him to the doc, but couldnt seeing as how I didnt have my car. I called my husband and told him and he said he'd come home for lunch. I thought OK HE'LL COME HOME SWITCH ME CARS AND I CAN TAKE HIM TO THE DOC.... NOPE. 2hrs after he was suppose to be home he calls and says "WE GOT SUPER BUSY, I COULDNT LEAVE. JUST KEEP AN EYE ON HIM." I was HOT. The next day my husband takes a Half a day off and goes with me to the doc. Kinda odd but whatever, at least I got my baby to the doc.

Now Monday night he went to the ATM at MIDNIGHT to see if we got our tax refund. We did and he came back home and asked me if I wanted to go to Walmart and buy shoes for a viewing we had to go to on Tuesday. It's 12:30 at night and he wanted me to go to the store.

So I asked him, "CAN I JUST GO TOMORROW?" and he had the nerve to say "WHEN? HOW?" I'm like "TOMORROW DURING THE DAY? YOU LEAVE MY CAR HERE AND I'LL GO TOMORROW." Then he was like, "WELL HOW ABOUT I COME PICK YOU UP AT LUNCH AND WE WILL GO TOGETHER?" I guess he sensed my iritation because he started running his mouth about buying a new car. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HIS CURRENT CAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He says he doesnt want to drive it in the winter because it's rear wheel drive... annnd bc it's such a gas hog.

That argument makes no sense because when we lived 10minutes away from his work - he always drove his car....so why is it that we live closer he has to have my car?

Tuesday came - and after we did our lunch errand run I was in a bad mood because he kept saying, "I'M IN A HURRY IM IN A HURRY." He dropped me and the kids off at home and BURNED THE TIRES OUT on the road. I texted him and told him IF YOU WANT TO DRIVE LIKE THAT, DO IT IN YOUR OWN CAR!!!!!!!!!!

The proceeded the argument of him saying "I WILL NOT DRIVE UR F-ING CAR EVER AGAIN. I DONT SEE WHAT THE BIG DEAL IS BUT FINE IT WILL STAY PARKED. I'LL GET A NEW CAR. BYE BYE REFUND MONEY OH WELL GUESS I'LL USE IT MORE THAN YOU USE THE TREADMILL. YOU DONT HAVE ANYWHERE TO GO. WHY DO YOU NEED TO GO ANYWHERE? "

I dont think im asking for a whole lot. It's not like I want to drive all day every day. Just to visit my grandparents or my mother.... But he says gas is too expensive for a 16mile round trip once a week. I'd like to have my car for emergencies... if they kids get sick or hurt... other than having to call him... HOPE TO GOD he is IN TOWN and not out on a tow....and wait for his ass to FINALLY grow balls and tell his boss he needs to leave. I cant seem to get him to understand.

And after all this arguing yesterday... HE STILL TOOK MY CAR TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hrmmm....when I first read he had a crown vic I figured he doesnt like driving it in winter cause its rear wheel.....but he doesnt have to drive far to work so thats kind of odd on days when its not a blizzard out.

And the fact that he knows hes taking away your freedom is odd.

Honestly....I think theres something else going on. Are you sure his car is working? The insurance is paid up? Theres no tickets? Sounds like hes trying to hide the Vic.

oh....ofcourse you're right.

Why don't you just move the car seats into the crown Vic?????

Take the car seats out of your car, put them in his and use his gas guzzling bitch of a car to drive all the smurf over town...that's what I would do  

Really weird sounds like his trying anything to avoid you having the car

i wouldnt settle for that
i would just take my keys and say drive your own car
but thats just how i am ,...

Quoting Captain Obvious:" Take the car seats out of your car, put them in his and use his gas guzzling bitch of a car to drive all the smurf over town...that's what I would do  "

 

He's being a jerk. Whose name is on the title? I would just threaten to report it stolen.

I see your point, yes. Seems like common sense to me. You have the kids, you need the car that the kids can ride in.
Considering you are husband and wife, though, I would look at the cars as both of yours not his and hers. But that's just how we work things.

I read wrong. The car seats are just in his car, you could just move them, right?

Is he controlling in any other way? Or abusive at all?

Even though it irritated the smurf out of me, SO has driven both my cars like that when he had his own. It never bothered me much because we intend to get married. What's mine is his & what's his is mine. Now all we have is his car but we never argue over it even though I'm at home 24/7. You are right in the aspect of you should be able to have a way around. Take the carseats out of your car & use his. You aren't planning to go many places anyways. Its more gas efficient for him to take yours isn't it?

Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" hrmmm....when I first read he had a crown vic I figured he doesnt like driving it in winter cause its ... [snip!] ... working? The insurance is paid up? Theres no tickets? Sounds like hes trying to hide the Vic. oh....ofcourse you're right. "

As far as I know he doesnt have tickets or anything. the car has been paid for since the day he bought it. IDK I never thought of that...

So put the carseat in the Vic and drive that?

But honestly, he sounds like a controlling ass who doesn't want you to do anything without him being right there

His treadmill comment was uncalled for. But you're right. You shouldn't HAVE to switch car seats so you can drive HIS car. He should have enough respect to give you YOUR car back. Especially if he thinks his is unsafe.

It sounds to me like he doesnt want you going anywhere alone. Whats wrong with his car that you cant take it? I dont know if I missed something.

Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" Is he controlling in any other way? Or abusive at all?"

Yeah my friends tell me he is. Seeing as how he is the only one and his money goes into HIS BANK ACCOUNT... I think "OUR BANK ACCOUNT" has $5 right now. And we just got out $8,500 refund that was DIRECT DEPOSITED ACCOUNT. I never get any money in my hands. If I need something he goes with me to buy it. And He's particular about my cellphone, Who I text, when I text them, and If I text them MORE or BEFORE him he gets mad at me.