re: Would you tell her?

Thank you ladies for your honest opinions. I think I'm just going to end up deleting my Facebook.

Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" I'm trying to avoid it. I just don't really know how to reply when she asks me stuff about him. Like ... [snip!] ... asking me for her name and I kept telling her I don't know. I've never seen her or talked to her. I don't think she bought it."

Just be honest, tell her your happy to chat and keep in touch etc but as far as he goes etc you would rather not discuss it and tell her its not to be mean you just dont want to get in the middle or upset and lose either of them. Trust me you will no matter how good your intentions are it will fire back on you iv had it happen. Just tell her straight up that anything to do with him she needs to talk to him directly etc

Quoting Megs12:" Just be honest, tell her your happy to chat and keep in touch etc but as far as he goes etc you would ... [snip!] ... fire back on you iv had it happen. Just tell her straight up that anything to do with him she needs to talk to him directly etc"

The whole, "I'd rather not get involved in the situation because I don't want to say or do anything that'll make me lose either of one" sounds very nice and to the point. Thank you. I think that's what I'm going to tell her next time I speak to her.  

I agree with these ladies.. u should let her know that u are not comfortable talking aobut him with her. I'm in her situations right now (minus the sleeping around part, i know who my child's father is.) But I have no contact with him at all, he has moved on and changed his number and everything. The only contact I have with any of his family is with his sister, and that's just through txting. It's comforting to talk to her... even if it's just small talk. But like the other ladies mentioned, it does make it harder for me to move on when she mentions details about his life. I don't ask her, but sometimes it comes up in conversation. I wouldn't want to lose contact with her, even though I've considered it (i just posted about this the other day). But I would suggest to keep talking to her if u have a good relationship with her, it will make it easier for u to be around her child when he/she is born.