Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:" My son always waited until we were getting in the car before he wanted his bottle he did it so often ... [snip!] ... me feel awful. I'd rather prop a bottle than let my son CIO just because we are in a car and I can't stop to feed him. KWIM?"
Yes & no. CIO is leaving an infant alone to cry to teach them something. It is the decision to purposely allow crying (alone) so that the child learns they "aren't getting their way". Crying because momma has no control to change the situation is different entirely. If my then 3 yr old had fallen & was unconscious & I was tending to him, I wouldn't stop tending to him to go pick up the crying newborn right? And in that case, leaving him to cry isn't a form of CIO, even if the baby is alone in another room, it is just dealing with what you have to
deal with. It's a more extreme example, but it is meant to show that accepting the fact your child is going to "have to" cry in a given situation is a different thing than leaving a child to cry alone to teach them to give up trying to get what they want through crying. I have no idea if I would have ever decided to try letting him have a bottle in the car if I used bottles with him. He had them when I worked but never when with me. I am sure it would have been tempting if it had worked, but nursing him in the seat barely worked half the time, so I doubt it would have worked for him.
Funny story though,.. Once when we were coming back from camping our air conditioning crapped out. We had to roll the windows down & the only thing he hated as much as cars almost was wind - so BAD mojo. So I dug out a bedsheet & had it draped over his seat & me & was trying to sing to him & nurse him & such to get home with some sanity. We got pulled over because I guess it looked crazy & the cop was wondering WTH was going on under that sheet. He was super nice & apologetic in the end though. He asked me to take the sheet off & I explained my boob was fully out & I didn't want to hook it back up right away & do a bunch of maneuvering when he walked up in case he thought I was being hinky under the sheet, so I said "Give me a minute to hook back up" and he laughed & said, no, never mind.
You & I chatted about this in a different thread about how both our kids hated the car. I understand the purple screaming & the whole bit about a kid who hates car rides. If Dh was there I did contortionist tricks trying to nurse him while in his carseat & all of that. The rest of the time though it was me & him & I had to just deal with the crying.