Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:" You guys are seriously hilarious. You spend your time tag teaming on babygaga? How sad. Not to mention ... [snip!] ... if this "essay" was too long for you. I thought I was "wasting my time" writing to you? Way to contradict yourself there, hun."
I think you're just jealous that your husband wouldn't ever come stand in your defense on BG. It's really pathetic that you have to stoop so low as to accuse someone of possibly being fake to make yourself feel better and to validate your own opinions.
That said, you may have one of those perfect marriages where you and your husband do nothing but stare deeply into each other's eyes for hours on end in some deep, meaningful spiritual connection but most of us don't. And really, just because a man and woman pursue their own interests to help them cope in times of crisis doesn't invalidate their relationship.
Hell, I was in the hospital for four days with oligohydramnios. My husband was up there every day, but honestly we spent a lot of time watching tv and browsing the internet. Hospitals are boring. You can only do so much when you're confined to a room. It's even more boring when it's your child. My youngest spent some time in the hospital, and with all the medications they had her on plus contact precaution...well there's only so much time you can spend staring at your fatally sick child. Some people just need a way to escape. We're trying to explain to the OP that this may be her man's way of coping with the situation at hand.
Now scamper along back to your fantastical and perfect little bubble before I find myself a needle and pop it.