Quoting ℳizz ℊiz. :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" Well, obviously it was on his mind (and ... [snip!] ... marriage and try to bring mine down. Sounds like you got your own personal marriage issues there. Lol good luck with that one!!"
How exactly were you not comparing your marriage to hers? "Id be angry too if I had just given birth and my husband didnt want to stay in The hospital with me too." This entire post is about how OP was upset at her SO for not being there for her and her son. I'm not sure if you're being intentionally obtuse, but clearly this post is about relationships (hence it being in the "Sex and Relationships" category. Try reading sometime, you might catch on quicker). Trust me, my husband and I have been through more than you can possibly imagine and we've done it with amazing love and respect. I have nothing to be 'defensive' about in my marriage - we have been blissfully married for over 3 years and we always put each other FIRST (as it should be). We don't argue, we don't yell, and we certainly don't play video games when one of us is in the hospital. If you think it's acceptable for your husband to bring a video game console while your child is in the NICU, then terrific. Go ahead and play games while you spouse needs you. We have spent months living in a hospital dealing with surgeries and procedures, and you can bet my husband was there, holding my hand the entire time.
And by the way, nice job bringing in your SO to fight your battles. You and your SO need to get your priorities straight if either of you think it's ok for OP's spouse to play video games while her child is in the hospital, possibly dying. And by the way, you say I'm defensive, and yet you have to bring in your SO to fight your battles for you. That's about as defensive as it gets hun. Have a nice day and enjoy your 'marriage'.