Am I Wrong????

My husband is leaving the summer to go to mexico to visit his family. He will be there for 1 month. He lives farrrrr down in mexico, even from the border line it takes 18 HOURS TO GET TO HIS HOUSE! I am not going because my twins have medical conditions that keep them from getting a few vaccines that they need in order to travel. I asked my husband if he could just wait a little bit longer. Maybe next year they will be able to get the shots and we all can go together. I don't want him going alone, and I don't want him leaving us to go so far away. But he doesn't care, he is going regardless. I started getting angry and got really upset......he says im acting like a child....do you think im wrong for feeling this upset about it??

I see both sides of it really. He wants to see his family, but you want to go with. That's a tough situation.

Quoting -Christina-:" My husband is leaving the summer to go to mexico to visit his family. He will be there for 1 month. He ... [snip!] ... angry and got really upset......he says im acting like a child....do you think im wrong for feeling this upset about it??"

if it is something he has done in the past and it hasn't been a problem then yeah you are a little wrong. I mean why can't he go now and then also go next year? It is his family, how long has it been since he has seen them? If he sees them all the time then no you are not wrong.

what part of mexico he going to ?


and not sure why doesn't he want to wait

Quoting Amanda Contento:" if it is something he has done in the past and it hasn't been a problem then yeah you are a little wrong. ... [snip!] ... year? It is his family, how long has it been since he has seen them? If he sees them all the time then no you are not wrong."

he saw them 2 years ago.

I honestly don't see the issue. If he wants to visit his family he should be able to and you did say it has been 2 years

Quoting ☆ IVAN'S MAMI:" what part of mexico he going to ? and not sure why doesn't he want to wait "

almoloya de alquserias. its around Toluca.
he wont give me a reason why he cant wait a little longer. every summer they do this thing is his town for a church its a big thing there that they do and he wants to be able to do that as well. I asked if he can wait till next summer and we will all go but he says no, he wants to go this summer.

I don't think either one of you are wrong, I see both sides. Though it would suck to have him gone, I wouldn't be angry if mine decided to go.

Quoting -Christina-:" he saw them 2 years ago."

That's a long time, I think you should let him go because it has been so long. Just tell him have a good time but to remember next year you all will go so your girls can see his family as well. It makes a good compromise.

Quoting Martian Child.:" I don't think either one of you are wrong, I see both sides. Though it would suck to have him gone, I wouldn't be angry if mine decided to go."

its just so far away. I think that's why im more upset, just because im scared of something happening.

No one could keep me from visiting my family if I hadnt seen them in 2 years.

Imagine if it was your son who hadn't seen you in 2 years and his wife was telling him to wait a year like it's no big deal.

Quoting Amanda Contento:" That's a long time, I think you should let him go because it has been so long. Just tell him have a ... [snip!] ... a good time but to remember next year you all will go so your girls can see his family as well. It makes a good compromise. "

I know :/ I really want to go with him but my twins cant get the mmr vaccine yet. there has been no cases of the measles in mexico for a few years and people said if I take them there without the shot im crazy.

Quoting -Christina-:" its just so far away. I think that's why im more upset, just because im scared of something happening."

I understand that but it has been a long time. I mean if he saw his family on a regular basis then he would be a butthead for not waiting. Do you have a friend or family that can visit a couple days?

Quoting -Christina-:" its just so far away. I think that's why im more upset, just because im scared of something happening."

Definitely see what you're saying. My grandparents are in Michoacan, so I know what it's like to travel out there and be gone for a while. Guess that's why I see where he's coming from, too. Would you guys have an open line of communication while he's gone? You mentioned health problems with your babies, is it something that he would really need to be home for? If you don't mind my asking.

Quoting Martian Child.:" I don't think either one of you are wrong, I see both sides. Though it would suck to have him gone, I wouldn't be angry if mine decided to go."

this.

I understand how you feel OP but I get how he feels too. My DH hasn't seen his family in Mexico for 13 years so if it be me, I'd just let him go(especially if they think he is already coming)...BUTTTT I went to Mexico myself to visit his inlaws for 2 months and being away from him broke my heart... its a toughie.