Well you already know my guy is OCD....but really I do most things....all the cooking/cleaning/laundry/diaper changes everything....He straightens up every now and then if he is irritated and will load/unload the washer sometimes...lately he leaves hair around the sink....and he takes off and leaves his work clothes in the most random ass places...like why undress in the dining room hallway? So I have to go on a treasure hunt for them....that and socks....god I find SO many socks tucked away under things...I think Noah finds them laying around and hides them (eww)...Then he will yell at me about how he never has any socks/work clothes.....*sigh*

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" Well you already know my guy is OCD....but really I do most things....all the cooking/cleaning/laundry/diaper ... [snip!] ... them laying around and hides them (eww)...Then he will yell at me about how he never has any socks/work clothes.....*sigh*"

I loled. I can just imagine Noah finding a sock and hiding it somewhere. ^.^
ugh. I'm not so sure how I feel about this SAHM thing anymore. I wanted to be a SAHM so I could give my child the attention she's going to need, not give Eric an excuse to be a lazy smurf.  
There's probably going to be a serious talk before she gets here. I'm just not the person to be okay with being a maid to someone who's fully capable of cleaning up after himself.

nope never, I sometimes don't even know if i have 1 or 2 kids.

He cleans up after himself. I am not home to take car of him, I am home to take care of our kids. I am not the cook, the maid, etc. I do more of that stuff than he does, but I don't & won't do all of it & I won't take care of him like that. He is a grown ass man who is perfectly capable of figuring out where the waste basket, dishwasher & washing machine are located. ;)

I have to laugh - so many men complain their wives aren't into sex anymore. I always wonder how many of those men treat their wife like she's their mom & expect her to cater to him that way. I can promise you - if you feel like his mom, eventually you will see it impact your attraction to him as well. So many women seem to think something is wrong with them when they don't want to have sex, I think a good chunk of it is that they don't want to get it on with someone who feel more like a son than a partner.

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" He cleans up after himself. I am not home to take car of him, I am home to take care of our kids. I am ... [snip!] ... have sex, I think a good chunk of it is that they don't want to get it on with someone who feel more like a son than a partner."</blockquote>


I must be one of the odd ones out then. I have no problem cleaning up his messes and I'm very much attracted to him an want sex on a daily basis.

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" He cleans up after himself. I am not home to take car of him, I am home to take care of our kids. I am ... [snip!] ... have sex, I think a good chunk of it is that they don't want to get it on with someone who feel more like a son than a partner."</blockquote>


Omg thank you for seeing this point of view! That's exactly how I feel! I'm not HIS mom, I'm not staying home to take care of him. Granted, right now I'm staying home without a baby, but I had been planning on using this time before DD is born to get everything ready and clean for her, and him having a day off work just practically voids everything I do. Ugh. It's driving me insane.

Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:" <blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" He cleans up after himself. I am not home ... [snip!] ... odd ones out then. I have no problem cleaning up his messes and I'm very much attracted to him an want sex on a daily basis."

Then you don't see him as acting like a child I would presume.

And I don't have any problem either - he already does it. I don't have to say a thing. Then again, we both worked & were childless for ages, so we already established this crap eons ago & when we decided I would stay home, we both knew that stuff wasn't going to change.

It really depends, but he tries to help, for the most part & that's all I really want. I hate when he goes through little stages of just not even bothering to do anything though & I let him know.

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" He cleans up after himself. I am not home to take car of him, I am home to take care of our kids. I am ... [snip!] ... have sex, I think a good chunk of it is that they don't want to get it on with someone who feel more like a son than a partner."</blockquote>


  We for sure have had these issues.

I don't mind taking on the most of it, because I'm here a lot more but I am definitely not the maid and he knows that he has equal responsibility to help out more where necessary.

Yes he does. I can't put up with someone who doesn't. He didn't at the beginning and I was about to leave him because of it.

He cleans up after himself. Jesus, I have enough children as is, I dont need to be married to a child.

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" He cleans up after himself. I am not home ... [snip!] ... a lot more but I am definitely not the maid and he knows that he has equal responsibility to help out more where necessary."

The way I see it, even people who have maids (or at least people with common decency who have maids) will pick up a little before the maid is supposed to come, and they don't leave a disgusting mess that could have probably just been avoided to begin with. It's not fair to make a mess that compares to what a frat house looks like after a party and expect your partner to clean it up for you just because they're home all day.
I just don't feel obligated to clean a mess that isn't mine, or in the future, my child's when she's not capable of cleaning it herself. I can guarantee that once my daughter is old enough to clean up after herself, she will be the one to clean it, not me. As should SO. I don't see how some one wouldn't want to have a clean home, and just make the small effort to clean the small simple messes that they're responsible for.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>" I loled. I can just imagine Noah finding a sock and hiding it somewhere. ^.^ ugh. I'm not so sure how ... [snip!] ... gets here. I'm just not the person to be okay with being a maid to someone who's fully capable of cleaning up after himself."</blockquote>




 ....You will know after staying home the first months....I might have to pick up a part time job soon..we are so broke....On one hand I'm excited on the other I am scared to leave him so much right now. He is sooo active and gutsy   its scary.

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>" I loled. I can just imagine Noah finding a sock ... [snip!] ... one hand I'm excited on the other I am scared to leave him so much right now. He is sooo active and gutsy   its scary."

That sucks.  
If it makes you feel any better, I don't see this whole me getting to be a SAHM thing lasting more than two months or so.  
I reaallllyyyyy don't want to go back to work. I'm already terrified of the thought of leaving her with anybody
Do you think you're just going to go back to PP?

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>" I loled. I can just imagine Noah finding a sock ... [snip!] ... one hand I'm excited on the other I am scared to leave him so much right now. He is sooo active and gutsy   its scary."

I think "active & gutsy" is the perfect way to describe that age. LOL