Quoting Ryloonjimama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" He cleans up after himself. I am not home ... [snip!] ... a lot more but I am definitely not the maid and he knows that he has equal responsibility to help out more where necessary."
The way I see it, even people who have maids (or at least people with common decency who have maids) will pick up a little before the maid is supposed to come, and they don't leave a disgusting mess that could have probably just been avoided to begin with. It's not fair to make a mess that compares to what a frat house looks like after a party and expect your partner to clean it up for you just because they're home all day.
I just don't feel obligated to clean a mess that isn't mine, or in the future, my child's when she's not capable of cleaning it herself. I can guarantee that once my daughter is old enough to clean up after herself, she will be the one to clean it, not me. As should SO. I don't see how some one wouldn't want to have a clean home, and just make the small effort to clean the small simple messes that they're responsible for.