I am 7 weeks today and Its not like the 3 survived because Im afraid if i foucus to much on it or get stressed I will. Im with high risk drs and am akready 1/2 cm dialated, they say till it a baby nothing much we can do, BS what about that thing they put to help support cervics??? Any way I lost a lil boy at 16 weeks, how i Know it was a boy was b cause I felt so sick, gass boiling n my stomach, I begged my husband to not go to work, but as usual, dont care gotta make money, I could barely walk, got n shower si i could go to ER myself, and a gush of stuff and the baby flew out, i caught him n my hand, called 911 and bout died due to blood loos, I feel it was my fault b cause i took care of a elderly heavy lady, and my two babies 3 and 1 now, she died, My sis n law dies at 38 of breast cancer and my husband who dosnt even deserve me cheated on me for 3 mo, and oh he couldnt stop, he was blacked mailed, and to say this as the one cheated on she was model beauty but known all around, esp married men what n the hell did she think, he my husband is ugly, I just loved him from heart, real love. But now im constantly n pain over this stressing, needing to make deccissions but if i do it could make me worst with the baby, i dont want to loose him/her. Im scared and im so alone, The man that i would have laid thousands on did what i said he would never do, so we r miserable, and my 3 children feel it and my 7 weeker def feels it all. I used to b a strong damn woman needed no man when it was just me and my 13 yr old (her father died) and I wouldnt take my new babies back but only if i had belieaved what I was told, If i stay with him i could loose it and have no loving support anyway, if I left i still could loose under stress by being alone too. Im just so hurt and scared and want to carry to term a healthy babie, and hopre to find friends here who understand, sorry so long

Holy run on.

Sorry op I couldn't really make sense of most of what you said.

If you think a cerclage would help why don't you talk to your doctor. It's up to you to stand up for yourself. Don't allow what happened previously to happen again if you think there is a way to stop it.

Im very sorry for your losses.

Your post is a bit hard to read, so Im not sure what the poll is asking. If you are asking if you should leave, yes you should leave, being with someone who makes you feel alone is worse then actually being alone.

That was really really hard to read. Wow.

So you are 7 weeks pregnant, you currently have 3 children and have had two miscarriages? Is that correct? And your husband cheated on you? Something about blackmail. I lost you I don't know.

Anyway, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. But stress won't MAKE you lose a pregnancy. If you're going to lose it you're going to lose it, there is very little that can be done to stop that. The "thing they put in you cervix", I believe you're talking about a cerclage. The stitch that they give women to help with conditions like incompetent cervix I believe. Is that the problem you were diagnosed with I your previous losses?

I'm sorry, I didn't really understand the entire post... Or the poll. I'm very sorry you are having a tough time though, and for you losses.

Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" Holy run on. Sorry op I couldn't really make sense of most of what you said. If you think a cerclage ... [snip!] ... to you to stand up for yourself. Don't allow what happened previously to happen again if you think there is a way to stop it."

Yes u r right, n my last living preg they used it and wow it helped but they say really whats the point, misscarriages happen, well yeah if its the extra progestrion u r missing or your bottom sack and cervics has clots and two then to hold, I told them n June I felt the baby will die cause I feel I cant hold it, then they also didnt give progest, Last week I started having verry bad pain, like my stomach was pumped full of gass that was just stuck, all the same symptoms from my last loss, and just as then its not hurting no more and I feel diff, the pain im talking about is like no other so its like if u had one before, feel the exact symptoms again, hello. High risk says dont bother with comming n untill my next apt, two weeks away. If Ive lost or loose this baby without them trying all they could????? So what is this thing u r talking about? Ill right it down also and Im going to talk to hospital amministrative if they dont begein to help. Thank u, so I need to demand, patients rights?? Pray my lil one is ok untill I can c for myself on ultrasound