Should I Or Not??

Ok Ladies My Life Has Been crazy for about 5 months now...it all started when me and My husband were having issues with me not giving him enough effection towards the end of my 2nd pregnancy i wasnt into sex for the simple fact that it was uncomfortable for me. he started working at a strip club as security and i could tell things were getting worse. he wouldnt come home until 7-10am, he stopped paying bills and rent would say his money got stolen ect. then i ended up having to have my daughter a month early at 36weeks. she wasnt gaining anymore weight so they felt she would be better off out...while in the hospital he wasnt there much just to sleep and take a shower... by that time we lost the house and i was owing money for unpaid bills.. i had to move in back to my parents and we were no longer together..after i had my little girl i found out he had a girlfriend that is a stripper and was heartbroken b/c even though we were not together were still married and he tells everyone that we were working things out. so from then to now for a good 3 months i told him i didnt want to lose him that i rather have half of him then none so he was with her and me also..would come home to sleep with me and eventually i felt horrible about the situation i wanted him to myself so i started telling her he was staying with me again and sleeping with me apart from the fact that we worked together...and she tells me shes pregnant...O.o but then she ended up having a misscariage and they are officially together and come to find out when im now wanting to just get a place and do better for me and my two girls i find out im pregnant. and i already have trouble caring for then with a job so eventually i got fired b/c i cant afford daycare plus shes to young. i asked him what was i supposed to do he said he didnt care...were thinking about abortion or adoption but i dnt think i can let the bby go if i do do adoption.but not sure if i can go through with abortion..i cant afford three kids he doesnt help with them as much as i would like idk what to do!

I would get one <3 I wouldnt want to be anymore connected to him. Have you filed for divorce yet?

ETA: But you need to decide what you want to do for yourself.

Quoting *AaLiyahs Mami *:" Ok Ladies My Life Has Been crazy for about 5 months now...it all started when me and My husband were ... [snip!] ... if i can go through with abortion..i cant afford three kids he doesnt help with them as much as i would like idk what to do!"

Sounds like you made some bad choices.

I would very carefully consider all your options, including termination.

But regardless on what i do he will be in my life forever we have two beautiful girls together an 18month old and a 5 month old!

You need to do what is best for you and the children you have now. Which ever decision you make it will be hard regardless. But make sure you're 100% about what you choose. <3

Quoting *AaLiyahs Mami *:" But regardless on what i do he will be in my life forever we have two beautiful girls together an 18month old and a 5 month old!"

I know.... he seems like a smurffy person...

Think long and hard about it, it's not something to decide overnight. If you feel you can't care for another child then abortion may be best because you have two that need care right now. Adoption would be hard but giving another couple the chance to give that Baby a life that you know you can't give. It would be hard to explain to your children.

Its a very hard ordeal, I've been in the same situation and I felt that abortion would be best but dh wouldn't go for it and we're still struggling. Best wishes mama...

I'm so sorry you are going through this. You need to make this decision for you and you alone. I would not take his opinion into consideration because it sounds like no matter what you do he is not going to be around. I hope you find a way to make whatever decision you need to for you and your girls.

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I would suggest an abortion because it would be easier(to me anyways) than to hand over a baby I carried for 9 months. Don't sleep with him ever agin now that you've stopped and only talk to him regarding your kids and that's all. Do not go back and try to have "half" of him because he doesn't deserve you at all.

I know getting the abortion would be the easiest to do financially in the future. but ive had a miscarriage and blame myself for it till this day and just dont want it to mess me up even more. and i have always seen a baby as a gift from god and a miracle...but in my situation i think its my only choice...

Quoting *AaLiyahs Mami *:" I know getting the abortion would be the easiest to do financially in the future. but ive had a miscarriage ... [snip!] ... even more. and i have always seen a baby as a gift from god and a miracle...but in my situation i think its my only choice..."

Im sorry mama <3 You can talk to me anytime. I have a son, then had an abortion and placed a baby for adoption. So if you need an ear or a shoulder, my inbox is always open. Its not an easy choice.

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I've had 3 miscarriages. It's tough but don't blame yourself.

Quoting *AaLiyahs Mami *:" Ok Ladies My Life Has Been crazy for about 5 months now...it all started when me and My husband were ... [snip!] ... if i can go through with abortion..i cant afford three kids he doesnt help with them as much as i would like idk what to do!"

I am so sorry about the situation. You have a lot of courage and strength. My prayers go out to you and your daughter. This is a horrible situation to be in. Im deffintly not for abortions but I can't stop you from doing what you would like. Just think about the situations and all the cons and pros of an abortion or adoption or keeping him. Please seek god he can help you and he loves you. i hope everything works out!

I am so sorry you're going through this!