Not sure which forum to post in.. paternity.

So my boyfriend has brought it to my attention he wants a paternity test, I believe he is doing it out of spite to make me look bad to his family since he has treated me like garbage several times and LOVES to make me feel bad about myself. I have no problem with this, the baby is not even yet born. However, I feel that if he is so uncertain he is the father he is not to be on the birth certificate nor the baby to have his last name.

edit just incase I get cyber stalked...thank you so much!! it's my first and I don't know much about everything  

Yeah he sounds like he's not ready.

Anyway, when I had DD2, the dad wanted a DNA test. DNA test took too long to come back (we used the kind you can buy at walgreens and send in for like $100-- cheapest option, but won't stand up in court) so she got my last name, and her dad isn't on the BC either.

DNA came back that he was the dad of course, we just have yet to change her BC and last name.

Quoting rainbow_brite:" So my boyfriend has brought it to my attention he wants a paternity test, I believe he is doing it out ... [snip!] ... with him when he begged me to move in 6 months ago.. Any advice would be great and I am sorry if this is in the wrong forum.."

Get the paternity test, get out of the realtionship and nail his ass for child support.

I believe he has the right to ask for a paternity test whether he was doing it out of spite or not. Its really nothing against you but he has the right to be sure. That aside, if he's such a smurffy guy, why is he still your boyfriend?

Quoting .Colleen.:" Get the paternity test, get out of the realtionship and nail his ass for child support. "

  

I didn't even finish the first paragraph but if he is your boyfriend and is treating you like that, it is time to move on.

One word of advice for you....RUN!!! As fast as you can away from him, he sounds like a loser

Leave him.

Encourage him to pay for a paternity test.

It'll make getting child support much easier.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy2Kay:</b>"    I didn't even finish the first paragraph but if he is your boyfriend and is treating you like that, it is time to move on."</blockquote>




This & this!
I wouldn't put him on the birth certificate until after you do a paternity test, also he sounds very controlling, as far as accusing you of cheating because you took to long at the store. As soon as you get the paternity results back you need to go to court for custody/visitation & get a court agreement on who claims him on taxes. Good luck

Quoting .Colleen.:" Get the paternity test, get out of the realtionship and nail his ass for child support. "

This! When the baby is born dont have him sign ANYTHING at the hospital. You can ask after the baby is born for the DNA test in the hospital.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" This! When the baby is born dont have him sign ANYTHING at the hospital. You can ask after the baby is born for the DNA test in the hospital. "

So if he is there I can deny him signing the paper?
I'm not saying he doesn't have any write for a paternity test, I am just wondering if it makes me just as bad saying that the baby shouldnt have his last name since he is so uncertain.. I am not a malicious person, and I am still with him for that reason I try to see the good in people but these past few days have thrown me for a loop on what should I do for myself since he is obviously putting himself first I should to..right? I don't have a lot of money to get into a whole legal thing and when I have mentioned that whether we are together or not certain things will need to be decided in court possibly (when he mentioned the tax thing etc) and his response is "oh you wanna take me to court? thats messed up.."..

Quoting rainbow_brite:" So if he is there I can deny him signing the paper? I'm not saying he doesn't have any write for a ... [snip!] ... court possibly (when he mentioned the tax thing etc) and his response is "oh you wanna take me to court? thats messed up..".. "

Yeah. It isnt messed up that you want to tkae him to court for everything. And you dont need to have a lawyer for CS or Visition / custody. And you decide what the babies last name is going to be, not him. As for the tax thing it can be decided when you go in for child support and say he can claim him on odd years and you on even.. etc etc..

Quoting rainbow_brite:" So if he is there I can deny him signing the paper? I'm not saying he doesn't have any write for a ... [snip!] ... court possibly (when he mentioned the tax thing etc) and his response is "oh you wanna take me to court? thats messed up..".. "

Just an fyi on the tax thing. He needs the social security number to claim a child. Just don't give it to him. Not to mention whoever has the kid should be able to claim him/her...unless theres shared custody.