Quoting babydelicious:" Would you invite people ever again to any of ur kids functions if they dont plan on bringing anything ... [snip!] ... drinks because they think they shouldn't have to provide that but cake.. sorry it just bothered me and my daughters father ... "
first... anytime I invite anyone to anything I NEVER expect them to bring something. I invite them because I want their company, or want them to share in celebrating something,. Even birthday parties.. I tell them no gifts necessary. Most people bring anyway... but I don't want anyone to not share in our joy just because of financial stress.
as far as being expected to bring something to theirs...I'd decide based on if I wanted to go.. probably less likely to go if they expect me to bring something.. but depends on the friendship.