Pregnant 17 year old girlfriend freaking out? Wants me to ha

Hiya
sorry for having to post this on a forum with mostly women on but have literally no one else to talk to about my dilemma. Basically im 23 and my girlfriends 17 we have been together for nearly 2 years i know there's a slight age difference but nothing illegal where I am. During the start of our relationship and during the first time we had sex I wore a condom but after sex it made her bleed and made her very sore and she couldn't wee, we thought it might have just been from the sex but the next time we had sex it did the same thing so we put it down to the condom, she then told me she didn't want to have sex with the condom off so i told her she should go on the pill but she said it would be ok for now and its not likely that she will get pregnant as long as i pull out, I should have known better but I was very stupid and continued having sex. About 3 months in she found out she was pregnant, i told her to do what she thought was right and I didn't mind what she did i just wanted her to be ok with her decision and knew that i would stick by her. She decided to have an abortion and i was fine with that and went with her, after the abortion she was an emotional wreck for a while but we where strong and we both got over it.

She went on the pill in January then in July she suspected she could be pregnant due to missing a period, i brought her a test which was positive and when we went for a scan it came back that she was 4 months pregnant. She decided she was going to keep the baby because she didn't want to get a 2nd abortion, i was fine with this and supported her all the way but it was stressful knowing how we where going to support a baby and afford it as i was at uni and she was at school but i told her i would make it work, she started having mood swings calling me names (even went as far as to being racist to me) told me the kid wasn't mine etc went mad whenever i hung out with mates just was being horrible all over to me when i treated her so nice she just threw it back in my face. However I kept on trying to rekindle things between us as i really loved her. 2 weeks after her scan she started bleeding and went to the hospital, they told her she had misscarried, i came with her and she had to give birth to the baby dead, they allowed us to hold the baby and take pictures it was a very upsetting time for both of us but she took it worse than me, she started being more horrible to me after the death and she got anxiety and depression and it effected our relationship but i still stuck by her side.

I told her i didn't want to have sex anymore until she got the implant as i had reads its really effective. She got angry that i wouldn't have sex with her with just the pill but thats because i didn't trust it anymore. I never made her get the implant i just said like "look I don't mind if we dont have sex, i can deal with having no sex but if you can't deal with that then you need to get the implant as im not trusting the pill" she finally got the implant i went with her and shes had it for just under a year now. Our relationship if anything got worse when she had it because of everything, she was acting strange and blaimed it all on the way she felt because of everything that had happened, she was going to counciling though and was in the process of getting help yet she was so horrible to me, so i thought why does she deserve me being nice to when shes just going to call me names so i started doing the same (i never called her names or was horrible to her i just started being "off" with her)

But actually the last 2-3 months have been pretty good, everythings starting to getting back to how it was. Where long distance at the moment as ive finished uni so moved back to my home town Lastnight she text me saying "theres something i need to tell you but im scared too" I text her back asking what it was and she said she could be pregnant as shes got a pos test (despite the implant) I got angry at first not at her but at the fact the implant failed on us and i took it out on her a bit saying "It should have worked" and stuff. I then felt bad and text her telling her that we will go to the docs when im next down to find out for sure and everything will be ok, and she totally started freaking out texting me saying "i dont want the baby but i know im more than 5 months pregnant because i can feel kicking" and i told her that if she didn't want it we can explore other options like adoption and she just started saying stuff like "il give myself an abortion" and i phoned her she declined the calls worrying that she would do something stupid i messaged her and she was like "what other choice do i have" i told her to calm down and everything will be ok, she told me she was crying and just in a state of doom. She told me that she wanted me to have the baby and if i didn't she was going to keep it herself and never let me see it, i told her it will all be ok and she was just going mad. I feel like im at the end of my teather i dont know what to say or do to her to make her feel better, all shes does these days is lay in bed and cry she tells me all the time thats all she does and this i think has taken a huge effect on her. I don't know what to say to her?? I kind of feel like I wanted to end it despite loving her i just feel as if i can't take this extra stress anymore on top of my job etc?? please help

where's her parents?

Quoting ℳary ℐane:" where's her parents?"

 

her mum and dad live abroad and left 3 years ago and she decided she didn't want to go with them even though she was given the opportunity. She lives with her nan and grandad but she dosen't really talk to them and wont let me meet them.

are you 100% sure she's pregnant?

you need to end it and date someone closer to your own age. no offense, but you basically took this girls teenage years away from her.

It kinda sounds like she's just saying she's pregnant to manipulate you but that's just my opinion.

Quoting Ashleywest:" her mum and dad live abroad and left 3 years ago and she decided she didn't want to go with them even ... [snip!] ... was given the opportunity. She lives with her nan and grandad but she dosen't really talk to them and wont let me meet them."

tell her to join baby gaga. We will knock some sense into her.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ----&&:</b>" It kinda sounds like she's just saying she's pregnant to manipulate you but that's just my opinion."</blockquote>

I agree with this.

Quoting ----&&:" It kinda sounds like she's just saying she's pregnant to manipulate you but that's just my opinion."

yeah. she could be a little drama queen. Don't believe it till you take chick to the doc's OP.

I'm really having a hard time believing that she got pregnant on the pill and implant.
twice.

Chick sounds a bit cray

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ashleywest:</b>" Hiya sorry for having to post this on a forum with mostly women on but have literally no one else to ... [snip!] ... wanted to end it despite loving her i just feel as if i can't take this extra stress anymore on top of my job etc?? please help"</blockquote>




A21 yr od sleeping with a 15 yr, pretty sure that's illegal everywhere.

She needs help. Period. Try to get her some.

I have a feeling the pill didn't work because she didn't take it but i think if she didn't take it she didn't mean to, she just missed a few accidently but thought nothing off it, although ive asked her and she said she didn't miss any of them.

But she has sent me pictures of 5 tests and a picture of her stomach thats covered in stretch marks

Quoting .Colleen.:" I'm really having a hard time believing that she got pregnant on the pill and implant. twice. Chick sounds a bit cray"

This...so either she is lying about being on BC, doesn't know how to take it,or super fertile. Either way in any of those scenarios just stop sleeping with her. Not worth it.

Shes 18 in like 5 days so she she was 16 when i first slept with her as it hasn't quite been 2 years..