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Honestly, she's going to have sex if she wants to so helping her stay protected is the best option. I know no birth control is 100% but 85% (or whatever condoms claim to be) is better than 0%.

Is she pretty open with you? I would maybe tell her if she gets in a relationship and decides she wants to have sex to tell you and she can go on it. But exainnhow te hormones in bc can mess with your body. I got on it at 16 and it effed me up completely. I regret it everyday still almost 10 yrs later. Talk to her about condoms as well. Maybeake them available to her if she may need them. Not to condone it but just as a precaution. 13 is young but I am a realist and understand they're fonna do what they want. But just try to be open and real with her. Not judgmental and closed minded. That's where parents get into trouble.

I would explain the hormone changes and problems that could come with the pill, and stress how, at her age, it's best for her to avoid messing with her hormones unless she is going to be having sex. That doesn't mean you don't care about her sexual health too, just that you'd rather avoid the possible side effects on her body just for a "just in case" protection.

IMO 13 is too young and it does give them that " i can do it know im protected" kinda thing from experience, my friends mom put her daughter on birth control at 13-14 and she has had sex with more then 3 guys by the time she was 16 her mom even buy hers condoms ....im not sure if her lil sis is on birth control but shes 14 and has had sex with 2 different guys im not sure if it cause of the birth control or lack or their mother talking to them about it but i feel at that young it would just give them permission to do it

Quoting lolajessup:" Is she pretty open with you? I would maybe tell her if she gets in a relationship and decides she wants ... [snip!] ... they want. But just try to be open and real with her. Not judgmental and closed minded. That's where parents get into trouble."

Oh yeah, I already explained to her last night that there are some pretty rough side effects that can go along with BC and how she should avoid needing them at such a young age.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" Oh yeah, I already explained to her last night that there are some pretty rough side effects that can go along with BC and how she should avoid needing them at such a young age. "</blockquote>


I would probably make vcf and condoms available to her if she feels the need and stress that that is NOT permission to do it and you'd be *very* disappointed in her if she chose to have sex without discussing it with you first.

I would explain all the bad side effects BC has, and try to get her to see the light that way, but ultimately, I would ask her outright if she wanted to be on BC. If she says yes, then put her on it. Explain that just because your getting her on BC doesnt mean your ok with her having sex yet, and list your reasons. In the long run though it is better to have her on it now, than to have her end up pregnant after she told you she wanted to be on it.

I agree with the poster above to let her know that If she gets into a relationship and she feels like there is a possibility that sex is going to happen come to you and then get birth control. I just really, really feel like 13 is just way too young for sex   It literally breaks my heart to even think of a 13 yr old having sex!! Even though I know that is the case with a lot of kids these days.... They will do what they want to do but just try to let her know how big of a decision that is and figure out how she feels about sex? Like her values and morals pertaining to it.

Quoting {31WEEKS}:" IMO 13 is too young and it does give them that " i can do it know im protected" kinda thing from experience, ... [snip!] ... control or lack or their mother talking to them about it but i feel at that young it would just give them permission to do it"

I understand where you coming from, but those girls prob would've had sex with or without the BC. I had sex for the first time at 13 without it. I am so thankfull I didnt get pregnant, because I didnt use condoms either. My Dad talked to me about sex, and I still did it. It is better for her to be protected than to have a pregnancy happen. If she wants to be on it, she should be.

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" Oh yeah, I already explained to her ... [snip!] ... NOT permission to do it and you'd be *very* disappointed in her if she chose to have sex without discussing it with you first."

That sounds like a good idea. I really want to avoid any hormones as long as possible. She thought it was just a simple pill that prevented pregnancy. But I googled and showed her lists of side effects and explained it all to her so I think I kinda got the picture across about most of it, I just don't want to seem like I'm condoning it all but I want her to be protected if/when the time comes.

I would keep condoms in the bathroom and tell her she was welcome to take them (but at that age I would probably make it clear that they weren't there for her to give to her friends if they asked). I'm not a fan of hormonal birth control at all and DH and I plan on keeping condoms around when our boys get older.
I don't think there's any perfect solution but condoms seem like the best bet, especially since I'd be just as concerned about STDs as I would be pregnancy.